THE EVOLUTION - As European immigrants came to America, they brought their varied Halloween customs with them. Because of the rigid Protestant belief systems that characterized early New England, celebration of Halloween in colonial times was extremely limited there. It was much more common in Maryland and the southern colonies. As the beliefs and customs of different European ethnic groups, as well as the American Indians, meshed, a distinctly American version of Halloween began to emerge. The first celebrations included "play parties," public events held to celebrate the harvest, where neighbors would share stories of the dead, tell each other's fortunes, dance, and sing. Colonial Halloween festivities also featured the telling of ghost stories and mischief-making of all kinds. By the middle of the nineteenth century, annual autumn festivities were common, but Halloween was not yet celebrated everywhere in the country. In the second half of the nineteenth century, America was flooded with new immigrants. These new immigrants, especially the millions of Irish fleeing Ireland's potato famine of 1846, helped to popularize the celebration of Halloween nationally. Taking from Irish and English traditions, Americans began to dress up in costumes and go house to house asking for food or money, a practice that eventually became today's "trick-or-treat" tradition. Young women believed that, on Halloween, they could divine the name or appearance of their future husband by doing tricks with yarn, apple parings, or mirrors. In the late 1800s, there was a move in America to mold Halloween into a holiday more about community and neighborly get-togethers, than about ghosts, pranks, and witchcraft. At the turn of the century, Halloween parties for both children and adults became the most common way to celebrate the day. Parties focused on games, foods of the season, and festive costumes. Parents were encouraged by newspapers and community leaders to take anything "frightening" or "grotesque" out of Halloween celebrations. Because of their efforts, Halloween lost most of its superstitious and religious overtones by the beginning of the twentieth century. By the 1920s and 1930s, Halloween had become a secular, but community-centered holiday, with parades and town-wide parties as the featured entertainment. Despite the best efforts of many schools and communities, vandalism began to plague Halloween celebrations in many communities during this time. By the 1950s, town leaders had successfully limited vandalism and Halloween had evolved into a holiday directed mainly at the young. Due to the high numbers of young children during the fifties baby boom, parties moved from town civic centers into the classroom or home, where they could be more easily accommodated. Between 1920 and 1950, the centuries-old practice of trick-or-treating was also revived.
Wednesday, October 31, 2007
Monday, October 29, 2007
I know I would be a better man.
I gave more of me,
And now it is too late to see.
For I stand blindly @ the edge,
With time in abundance;
And struggle and fight this fight.
Because I don’t love me,
My struggle is fruitless and cannot be sustained
Without grave loss in spirit.
I am living in hell for heaven?
I owe me more than I could every pay.
Love has stolen my senses,
Destroyed my courage;
And left me a broken man with only my name.
Now all I have are dreams,
That try to sustain me through the madness;
Around every wall…
And U remind remain elusive throughout the quest,
Mistakes are made;
And regret is my luggage.
I will drag them with me to slow me down!
Reminding me that love is bitter,
Yet it is the bread that keeps me.
Only to starve me!
Yet leave me cold and alone in the darkness.
Wishing to feel the brush of hope against my face,
Wrapped up in LOVES warm embrace.
I gave U what I denied myself,
Thought U were the one the stars fell for…
The one I loved without loving me.
Sunday, October 28, 2007
Let’s face it. Achieving boundless energy, the body of your dreams, glowing beauty, and optimal health is tough! There’s no doubt that it’s probably the most difficult thing for any person to achieve and experience on a consistent basis. Sadly, most persons I encounter on a daily basis LOOK and FEEL sick and tired. If one takes a moment and look at the people around them they would see that they do NOT exhibit the kind of radiant energy and glowing health that WE all want and deserve. WE shorten and destroy our lives by the way we prepare and cook the food we eat and the combinations of food on a typical would leave anyone unhealthy. I wonder how it is that the plate does NOT broke or split in two because of it being unbalanced. We are literally poisoning ourselves SLOWLY but SURELY. Food is our source of life, but ANYTHING done in EXCESS cannot AND is not good for us. Yet we toy around with death NOT thinking OR caring that it can take US out.
I feel that in order for US to reach OUR high vibration level, WE have to be WHOLE n’ HEALTHY. It is @ this time WE can sense that we are aligned with all that is. I personally feel that WE are capable of HEALING ourselves which can result in US resonating CLOSER and CLOSER to our ideal selves. WE need to get OUR THOUGHTS, EMOTIONS, INTENTIONS, CHOICES and ACTIONS under control so that WE can contribute to a HEALTHY state. Let us CULTIVATE good eating habits that contribute to our physical health and strength. But this can ONLY be achieved if OUR DESIRE for change is STRONG. As WE evolve, WE need to observe the creatures that we are dominant over and take stock of how PERFECT NATURE IS. WE never see animals in their natural environment suffering from obesity OR any other diseases that now plague humans. They are as they should be. HEALTHY, FIT and SUITED for survival. However, what is interesting and sad, is that animals taken from the wild, and domesticated, start exhibiting similar symptoms and diseases that effect many people in our world. Obviously, something we are doing and eating is creating disease instead of promoting health, vitality, and energy! It’s time to change all of that for GOOD!
Friday, October 26, 2007
On this your day as you get older
Thursday, October 25, 2007
That has to wear red to cover up the stains…
That keeps me sane.
Confusing pessimism with realism;
Preventing my reality.
Asking me to smile;
Because ironically I enjoy it.
And I’ll be the be dessert,
Because I am soft n’ sweet.
I know I will feel the strike,
Because my defenses will be down.
Proving that my blessings equals their opposing curse,
No big deal,
It is jus the way of me.
So as the herd is racing north,
I am exploited as the hopeless n’ helpless;
As I step in their shit.
I will be generous n’ courageous,
It cost everything n’ nothing.
I will patient n’ tolerant,
There is opportunity in change;
And all roads lead to where I stand.
My nobility will be measured by my merciful cruelty,
I am the order that maintains deception;
Destroying the lie sandwich between two truths.
Forgiving the shit left on the floor;
And ignoring the pieces of my soul that fell through the cracks.
My equality exist outside of me,
It is the inheritance of this individual;
And I will see the REIGN for what it is…
For it is my ally.
Wednesday, October 24, 2007
RECOGNIZE DANGER. STROKE symptoms may include SUDDEN:
- Numbness or weakness of the face, arm or leg, especially on one side of the body.
- Confusion, trouble talking or difficulty understanding speech.
- Trouble seeing in one or both eyes.
- Dizziness, difficulty walking, or loss of balance or coordination.
- Severe headache with no known cause
Seek EMERGENCY help @ the first sign of sudden symptoms. Doctors can treat an ISCHEMIC STROKE with tissue PLASMINOGEN activator (TPA), a clot-busting drug that can minimize the risk of lasting disability. But TPA must be given within three hours after STROKE symptoms being, so there is just a SMALL window opportunity. So do NOT wait for possible STROKE symptoms to WORSEN or IMPROVE. Even if symptoms vanish in moments, you still need to get help @ once. Temporary symptoms may be a sign of a transient ISCHEMIC attack (TIA), or MINI-STROKE. A TIA is a warning from your body that a FULL-BLOWN STROKE may happen soon.
It is better to prevent a STROKE than to treat one. To lower your STROKE risk:
- Know your blood pressure numbers. If your blood pressure is consistently above normal, work with your doctor to lower it.
- Drop the extra pounds. If you are overweight, losing as little as 5 percent to 10 percent of your total weight may help prevent a STROKE.
- Do not light up. Smoking doubles STROKE risk.
- Eat wisely. A healthful diet can help you control three risk factors for STROKE – high blood pressure, high blood cholesterol and excess body weight. Eat plenty of fiber-rich fruits, vegetables and whole grains. Go easy on foods high in saturated fat, Trans fat, cholesterol and salt.
- Move more. Walking briskly every day for as little as 30 minutes may lower risk.
- Control diabetes. Keeping your blood sugar in the normal range helps lower your risk of STROKE.
- Ask about aspirin. If you are older than 50, ask your doctor if taking aspirin will help protect you from STROKE.
- Talk with your doctor if you have ATRIAL FIBRILLATION. A blood thinning medication may lower the increased risk of STROKE caused by this abnormal heart rhythm. Remember, a STROKE can change your life forever. Do everything you can to protect yourself.
Taking FAST action can save your brain. The most important thing to do @ the first sign of a STROKE is to get to a hospital quickly. Rapid medical treatment may limit damage to the brain and improve the chances of recovery. Use this simple FAST test to tell if medical attention is needed:
- Face. Ask the person to smile. Does one side of the face droop?
- Arms. Ask the person toe raise both arms. Does one arm drift downward?
- Speech. Ask the person to repeat a simple phrase. Does the speech sound slurred or strange?
- Time. If you observe any of these signs, call 9-1-1 immediately. An ambulance is the quickest way to get medical care.
NOTE: Another 'sign' of a stroke is this: Ask the person to 'stick' out their tongue. If the tongue is 'crooked', if it goes to one side or the other that is also an indication of a stroke. If he or she has trouble with ANY ONE of these tasks, call 911 immediately!! And describe the symptoms to the dispatcher.
Monday, October 22, 2007
Sunday, October 21, 2007
HIS heart lonely and SO withdrawn from life.
I knew that HE was weighed down with a HEAVY soul.
And it was @ this time that I knew,
Why HE came.
HIS life so EMPTY,
Saturday, October 20, 2007
Friday, October 19, 2007
Wednesday, October 17, 2007
LOVE is a WAR of the HEART n’ MIND.
So who is the “one” that meets on the battle ground?
Who is the “one” that carries your heart with the wind?
Who is the “one” that has you lost @ sea?
Who is the “one” that drowns you in LOVE?
…Now there is NO turning back,
And your HEART cries a little
Because you are NOT free.
And this GREATER than any fairytale reality,
Has you singing songs that falls on deaf ears,
Because the “one” is not physically attuned to the notes.
And here I am baring your soul,
Risking it all…
Making you fall,
Over and over and over
And I know you secretly cry,
No reason for pretending
The “one” is NOT true LOVE
So face destiny,
You know you have seen this before.
In your mind life for you didn’t being @ birth,
It was forged in the life of another…
Forcing you to that ACCEPT that the “one” was just a glimpsed,
A flash of what LOVE supposes to be.
And your heart begins to chase the room like a panther,
Pain and anxiety washes all over you.
Leaving you with an uncontained HEART.
…Because you LOVED the “one”
When the “ONE” has yet to appear.
Monday, October 15, 2007
Know how the anus works. Before having anal sex, let's talk about how the anus works. The anus is the opening at the end of the colon which controls the passage of waste. Waste passes through the small intestines to your colon, then your rectum and finally out the anus. The opening and closing of the anus is controlled by the internal and external sphincter muscles (the most important muscles when engaging in anal sex). The sphincter muscle is a sensitive membrane with many nerve endings and thus the source of pleasure or pain.
Reduce the pain. Any pain associated with anal sex is due to pressure or friction against the sphincter muscles. The best ways to reduce pain during anal sex is to get to know how your sphincter works and lubricate properly.
Get to know your body. The more familiar you are with your body, the more enjoyable anal sex can be. Each person's sphincter muscles react to penetration differently. Since the muscles control the opening and closing of the anus, you need to learn how yours works. Spend time safely exploring the sensitivity of your sphincter and how it reacts when you are relaxed or tense. Practice relaxation techniques such as deep breathing. Use a small sex toy, and then gradually increase the size. Exploring the sensitivity of your sphincter is an exercise both you and your partner can enjoy prior to penetration. Openly communicate how you feel in certain situations: What makes you tense? What are your limits? Stop if you feel uncomfortable, experience pain or bleeding. The more you both know about your bodies, the better your anal sex experience.
Practice good hygiene. Many gay men shy away from anal sex because of the possible hygiene problems. Maintaining proper hygiene is not only important for an enjoyable anal sex experience, but your health as well. Cleaning can be overdone, however. Be careful with over the counter internal cleansing products. They contain harsh ingredients not formulated for the anus. Also, avoid over wiping as this can cause irritation and bleeding. Baby wipes also contain perfumes that can irritate the skin. To properly clean, use premoistened adult wipes, like Charmin Fresh Mates or Kleenex Cottonelle Flushable Wipes.
Beware of the dangers of STD's. The anus is a thin membrane and therefore a hot bed for sexually transmitted diseases. HIV and other STD's can easily enter the bloodstream, especially when there are abrasions or tears in the anus. Having a thin membrane between your bloodstream and your partner's bodily fluids is what makes bareback sex so dangerous. Always use a condom and practice safer sex.
Sunday, October 14, 2007
Intercourse - The single most effective thing you can do to stay healthy while being sexually active is to use latex condoms for intercourse. All condoms are not made alike; men should experiment with different brands until they find the one they like best (many men prefer Kimono Microthins, which also taste fine for fellatio if you get them without Nonoxynol-9). When you put on a condom, pinch its tip as you unroll it (all the way down!) to prevent an air bubble from forming in the reservoir tip. For intercourse, you should then put some water-based lube (such as Astroglide, I-D, Foreplay, Wet, or Probe) on the outside of the condom for comfort, mutual pleasure, and to keep the condom from tearing during sex (some men find that more sensation is transmitted to them if they put a small amount of water-based or silicone-based lube INSIDE the tip of their condom before putting it on). It's very important for men to hold onto the base of their condom as they withdraw (i.e. after becoming soft) so it doesn't slip off. For a while, health experts were recommending that people choose safer sex products with Nonoxynol-9 to protect against HIV transmission: recent scientific evidence is resulting in this advice being formally retracted, and unless you are using Nonoxynol-9 as a contraceptive rather than for HIV prevention, it may be wise to cease using it entirely. If a condom fails during anal intercourse, the receptive partner shouldn't douche; if any Nonoxynol-9 contraceptive foam is handy it MIGHT help for him or her to insert it and leave it in for about 15 minutes, and it would certainly help to immediately remove the condom from inside the anus if it was left there. Men can give themselves a little extra protection after potentially being exposed to an STD by immediately visiting the restroom, urinating, and then possibly washing their genitals with an anti-bacterial soap. Please remember that it one should use a new condom for each new partner if there are multiple partners and it should NEVER be reused.
Oral Sex - Opinions differ on the use of safer-sex barriers for oral sex. It's clear that herpes can be transmitted from genitals to mouth or mouth to genitals during unprotected oral sex, but some people feel the risk is acceptably low outside of the most infectious period (which starts with the tingling "prodrome" sensations that precede an outbreak, and continues until several weeks after the sores go away). It is possible to pick up a bacterial infection of the mouth or throat by going down on someone who currently has a bacterial STD (typically Gonorrhea, more rarely Syphillis or Chlamydia), but these can generally be cured with antibiotics once they're identified. It is clear that the risk of transmitting HIV is much, MUCH lower for unprotected oral sex than for unprotected anal intercourse, and that the risk is MUCH lower for the person being sucked or licked than for the person doing the sucking or licking. For the person doing the sucking or licking, the risk of transmission is lower if your gums (and lips/mouth/throat) are healthy, if you don't let men come in your mouth, and if you don't perform cunnilingus on a woman while she is menstruating. Some sex educators recommend NOT flossing or brushing your teeth for an hour before giving unprotected oral sex (use Cool Mint Listerine or some other anti-bacterial mouthwash if you're concerned about bad breath or just want to freshen up), and others recommend quickly looking over the genitals you're about to go down on for obvious signs of contagious STDs (including genital warts, which can on rare occasion be transmitted from genitals to mouth). If your policy for performing unprotected fellatio is to not let your partner come in your mouth and he does so anyway, it's better to immediately spit than to either wait or swallow, and it may help (especially for bacterial STDs) to then go use an anti-bacterial or peroxide mouthwash. Pre-cum can contain HIV, and although not letting men come in your mouth SIGNIFICANTLY reduces your already low risk to even lower levels, if you are concerned about becoming infected via pre-cum while performing fellatio you have two risk-reduction options: not taking the head of his penis in your mouth or using barriers for oral sex. If you decide that your personal safety standards include barriers for oral sex, then you'll need to use latex condoms (without Nonoxynol-9) for fellatio, and either saran wrap or one of those "Glyde" dams for cunnilingus (for cunnilingus, put a little water-based lube on your partner's side of the barrier to increase the sensation transmitted to her). The same barrier techniques used for cunnilingus can also be used for analingus (rimming), where they should be considered essential if the person doing the licking isn't immunized against hepatitis A or if the person being licked may have a bacterial infection.
Your Hands - If you've had your fingers in someone's anus, or had someone come on your hands, then it's a good idea to wash your hands with hot water and anti-bacterial soap before touching your eyes or anyone else's genitals (individually-packaged anti-bacterial towlettes might be useful if you're outdoors). If your skin is compromised in any way, if you want to avoid needing to leave the scene to wash your hands, if you're going to be engaging in anal fisting or exposing yourself to any blood, or if you just want to be extra-safe, then try using disposable latex "examination" gloves - they're available at most drug stores. Of course, if you've just had your ungloved fingers in somebody's ass, then you'll want to be sure to clean your hands particularly thoroughly (especially under your fingernails) before putting your them in or near anyone's mouth.
Safer Sex Kits & Vaccinations - It's helpful to get a little hip pack for your safer-sex supplies, your smaller bottle of water-based lube, and anything else you commonly use. You might also want to pack a portable toothbrush and a travel-sized toothpaste tube in case you end up staying overnight somewhere. There are two STDs for which permanent vaccines are available: hepatitis B and hepatitis A. Hepatitis B can be spread easily through intercourse and (less easily) through oral sex or rimming, and hepatitis A is easily spread through rimming. Getting these two vaccinations (which you can do at the same time) would be an excellent idea if you don't always use barriers for these activities. By contrast, there is currently NO vaccine against Hepatitis C (though Hep C is spread primarily through direct contact with human blood, e.g. through sharing needles, and only rarely through sexual contact - see http://www.cdc.gov/ncidod/diseases/hepatitis/c/faq.htmfor more details). Researchers have recently discovered a possible vaccine against HPV subtype 16 (the strain of "genital warts" most likely to cause cervical disease, particularly for women who are not getting the annual Pap tests that might otherwise detect this problem in time to prevent it), but their vaccine is not available to the general public yet. Treatment, Testing, Supplies, and Additional Information - If you have additional questions about STDs or HIV, call the National STD Hotline at 1-800-227-8922 or visit http://www.thebody.com/. Information about clinics in your area where testing is available can be obtained by calling the National STD Hotline or by visiting http://www.unspeakable.com/locator/index.jsp. As the bacterial STDs are almost always curable with antibiotics and the incurable viral STDs (such as HIV, herpes, hepatitis, and HPV) are now more easily managed than ever, it's in your best interest to get tested if you think you might have been exposed to anything. Please keep in mind that, for standard HIV testing, a minimum of three months needs to go by since your last potential exposure for the test to be reliable: in other words, if you and your partner would like to drop safer sex precautions with each other and are primarily concerned about HIV, you'll need to go through a period of time where you're completely safe with each other and everyone else before you'll be able to get a meaningful test result (you'll also be advised on this matter when you go in for testing). If you require more detailed information on STD/HIV treatments, the best online document is the CDC's Guidelines for Treatment of Sexually Transmitted Disease at http://www.cdc.gov/std/treatment/TOC2002TG.htm. The only element lacking in this document is good pictures of herpes sores (and symptoms caused by other STDs) for those who want a better chance of being able to identify some of them by sight; for pictures, visit http://www.thebody.com/sowadsky/symptoms/symptoms.html Latex allergies are an increasing area of concern, particularly for health care workers. Fortunately, if you or your partner have any sort of latex sensitivity, non-latex alternatives for safer sex are available: Avanti condoms, Saran Wrap for cunnilingus and analingus, and Nitrile gloves.