Tuesday, September 30, 2008

SOME SEX FACTS





Bet you never imagined there could be bizarre laws pertaining to sex. However mind-blowing sex can be, so can certain laws in different parts of the world. Believe them or not, but they're true. Unbelievable? Well! We do live in a weird world!

1. In
Lebanon, men are legally allowed to have sex with animals, but the animals must be female. Having sexual relations with a male animal is punishable by death. (Like THAT makes sense.)

2. In
Bahrain, a male doctor may legally examine a woman's genitals, but is prohibited from looking directly at them during the examination. He may only see their reflection in a mirror.

3. Muslims are banned from looking at the genitals of a corpse. This also applies to undertakers; the sex organs of the deceased must be covered at all times.

4. The penalty for masturbation in
Indonesia is decapitation.

5. There are men in
Guam whose full-time job is to travel the countryside and deflower young virgins, who pay them for the privilege of having sex for the first time... Reason: under Guam law, it is forbidden for virgins to marry.
(Let's just think for a minute; is there any job anywhere else in the world that even comes close to this one?)

6. In
Hong Kong, a betrayed wife is legally allowed to kill her adulterous husband, but may only do so with her bare hands. The husband's lover, on the other hand, may be killed in any manner desired. (Ah! Justice!)

7. Topless saleswomen are legal in
Liverpool, England - but only in tropical fish stores.

8. In
Cali, Colombia, a woman may only have sex with her husband, and the first time this happens, her mother must be in the room to witness the act. (Makes one shudder at the thought!)

9. In
Santa Cruz, Bolivia, it is illegal for a man to have sex with a woman and her daughter at the same time.

10. In
Maryland, it is illegal to sell condoms from vending machines with one exception: prophylactics may be dispensed from a vending machine only "in places where alcoholic beverages are sold for consumption on the premises."

¿SAME-SEX SOUL-MATES?







As far back as I can remember I have been intrigued by the concept of SOUL-MATES. As I thought about it more and more, I realized that the world @ large had this notion that SOUL-MATES can ONLY be a male and female. Of course this did NOT sit well me because it does NOT include those of us that are a matched pair. Hence my question ¿SAME-SEX SOUL-MATES? To answer this question, let us first understand what SOUL-MATES are, for there are several different definitions of the term. According to the American psychic and prophet, Edgar Cayce, who first spoke about SOUL-MATES in the 1930’s while in deep trance, SOUL-MATES are two souls who, after a series of lifetimes together, become so close to each other that their destinies become intertwined. They help each other evolve to a higher level of soul evolution, until they reach perfection and union with God. From the above definition we can glean that SOUL-MATES are perfect partners who help each other attain a higher level of spiritual development which could not otherwise be achieved by being with another person. The main purpose therefore of a SOUL-MATES encounter is mutual help towards perfection, or union with God. Therefore, I feel that it is INFINITELY possible that a SAME-SEX couple could be each other’s SOUL-MATES. Though we seldom meet our SOUL-MATE, I still feel that it is possible. I am a believer that those that we keep company exist with us in more than one lifetime; and I feel that we get to live OUR lives in each aspect imaginable. Hence we need to UNDERSTAND that it takes many lifetimes of existence on this earth to develop such closeness with another human being. I feel this happens because we still have to work out our karma with other people and our SOUL-MATES also have to work out his OR her karma with other individuals. When they are done with such obligations or have paid off their karmic debts with others, you will definitely meet each other. It is @ that time onwards I believe that they will be together. So the PAST, PRESENT and FUTURE relationships that come your way and does NOT tug @ your soul should be seen as SOUL-MATES IN THE MAKING. They are merely souls that are evolving to be with their ONE TRUE MATE. Therefore, I say do NOT loose heart because you meet men OR women that are NOT worthy of who you are, rather help them help you get to your SOUL-MATE. IT IS SAID THAT LOVE MAKES THE WORLD GO AROUND & THAT IT IS THE BEST THING THAT COULD HAPPEN TO A PERSON. IT IS ALSO SAID THAT EVERYONE HAS A SOUL-MATE & WITH THIS PERSON YOU CAN FIND THE ULTIMATE TRUE LOVE YOU DESIRE. I KNOW THAT MANY OF GAY & STRAIGHT ALIKE WOULD SAY THAT HOMOSEXUALS CANNOT FIND SUCH A PERSON IN EACH OTHER, BUT I BEG TO DIFFER! WHEN YOU FIND YOURSELF IN A REAL COMMITTED SPIRITUAL, EMOTIONAL, PSYCHOLOGICAL, SEXUAL & ROMANTIC, HOW COULD THIS PERSON NOT BE YOUR SOUL-MATE? SEX ORGANS DO NOT DICTATE FATE & DESTINY, IN FACT DESTINY HAS IT OWN SET OF RULES & US NOT BEING ABLE TO PREDICT OR CONTROL IT SHOWS THAT THERE ARE SO MANY THINGS WE DO NOT UNDERSTAND ABOUT THE WORLD & OURSELVES. THINK OF HOW LUCKY YOU ARE WHEN YOU FIND THE ONE YOU ARE MEANT TO BE WITH NO MATTER HIS/HER GENDER…

Monday, September 29, 2008

¿HOW SOON IS TOO SOON?















As many of you may not know, I was planning on getting married in less
than month (
October 25, 2008 to be
precise),
but due to situations
beyond our control we decided to put it on hold. This day I have foreseen for
as long as I can remember and it saddens me that it won’t happen. But as the wedding
officiant said, IT IS NOT MARRIAGE WHICH MAKES A RELATIONSHIP STRONG;
BUT THE STRENGTH OF THE RELATIONSHIP WHICH MAKES IT A MARRIAGE.
Reading
those words made me feel okay about things not happening as planned. However
reading some other words did NOT! I was sitting down @ my pc trying to
figure out what I wanted to blog about today. Not too long after I had this
thought a friend of mine hit me up asking how I was doing and how my hubby was?
Of course I said that we are fine and it is was @ this time that I told him
that wedding was on hold. He expressed his sympathy but also added that maybe
it is for the best because he felt that it was TOO soon for us to be
talking about getting married. So imagine what my thoughts were when he said
that. Nonetheless, I kept my cool because I refuse to allow him OR
anyone to make my relationship a threesome. But I would be telling a lie if I
say that I didn’t find it VERY interesting AND hilariously funny
that this man like SO many other gay men have the nerve to tell others
how to go about their relationships, ESPECIALLY if they don’t have a
stable one of their own. I mean this guy’s idea of
a committed relationship is putting his ass up in
the air for some dick while he hope N’
pray that this is the one for him…Now I don’t know about you, but when it comes
to relationships I take mine VERY
seriously and I do NOT leave LOVE to chance. However I can’t help
but feel sorry him and the many others that are just like him. It kills me to
know that these men CRAVE LOVE and
would rather that I be as they are. Nonetheless, in these trying times, I find
that we cannot afford to live as if live doesn’t mean a thing AND that whatever man comes our way is
just for the time being. Too many of us are all about the supplementary AND NOT the complimentary; and it is KILLING us. @ THE END OF THE DAY, THIS IS MY LIFE & I AM GOING TO LIVE IT THE WAY
MY HEART N’ SOUL DICTATES. MOREOVER, I ACTUALLY BELIEVE THAT LOVE IS GREAT &
SHARING THAT WITH JUST ONE MAN IS PERFECT FOR ME. I GUESS IN THE REALITY OF THINGS
I CAN’T BE THAT HARD ON HIM FOR THINKING THE WAY HE DOES, AFTER ALL NOT BEING THE
ONE THAT I WANT TO SPEND THE REST OF MY LIFE WITH IS A DIFFICULT PILL TO SWALLOW…¿HOW
SOON IS TOO SOON YOU MAKE ASK? IT ISN’T SOON ENOUGH FOR ME…I CAN’T WAIT TO
STAND IN FRONT THAT ALTER & SAY I DO IN FRONT OF GOD, MAN & THE
ELEMENTS…THIS MOMENT WON’T BE TOO SOON FOR ME.


Sunday, September 28, 2008

¿WHAT ARE YOUR INNER-DEMONS?














ARE YOU LIVING A REFLECTION OF YOUR CORE TRUTH? ARE YOU FULLY ALIGNED WITH WHO YOU ARE? DO YOU WANT TO MAKE SOME CHANGES IN YOUR LIFE BUT THERE IS AN ELEMENT BLOCKING YOU? If your answer is NO, NO and YES then I say you must deal with your INNER-DEMONS. Most of the demons that we constantly battle with feed on OUR addictions. These addictions take many forms and so many of us have an UNHEALTHY relationship with them. It seems that when we try to FREE ourselves, something seems to push us further AND further into the abyss; and when this happens we somehow feel that this is life and this is what it is all about. But if one were to interject a counterintuitive, they would realize that we should get the best that life has to offer AND instinctively gravitate toward that. However, being creatures of habit and EASY targets for the elements that invade our lives; we gravitate towards PEOPLE, PLACES and certain PATTERNS OF BEHAVIOR that do us NO good. Many of the addictions we form are NOT conscious AND are based instead on learned behavior. Therefore if one is about break his/her addiction, they would have to kick their demons to the curb AND see life in a new light. I know this is difficult, but if we have compassion for ourselves as we work this process we can get there. It is helpful to remember is that in time we can establish NEW, HEALTHIER PATTERNS and a YEARNING for the old ones to disappear. Eventually, we will instinctively reach for things that are good for us, and the longing for positive change will form the basis of a new habit. In the mean time we need to understand that the ONLY way to get to this new place is to endure a time of difficulty, which is a challenge we can confidently handle, if we remember that it will lead to the change we seek in our lives. Our bodies, hearts, and minds always need time to adjust to a new way of doing things, but they will adapt, and even become our allies, if we remain true to our vision of a new way. IT IS ALL ABOUT BEING TRUE TO YOU & NOT LIVING FOR SOMEONE/SOMETHING ELSE. THOUGH YOUR DEMONS MAY NOT BE LIKE THOSE YOU SEE IN THE MOVIES, THEY MAY AS WELL BE BECAUSE HAVING A LIFE THAT IS NOT HAPPY OR PRODUCTIVE MEANS YOU ARE NOT LIVING UP TO YOUR POTENTIAL. SO BEFORE WE CHOOSE TO TAKE ON LIFE’S ELEMENTS, HOW ABOUT WE MAKE SURE THAT WE HAVE MORE THAN ENOUGH SELF-LOVE, SELF-CARE & THAT WE ARE LIVING OUR TRUTH? WE NEED TO MAKE THE RIGHT CHOICES SO THAT OUR ACATIONS WON’T BETRAY US. AFTER ALL LIFE IS ALL ABOUT LIVING ACCORDING YOUR OWN SET OF HEALTHY RULES & STANDARDS…¿WHAT ARE YOUR INNER-DEMONS & WHAT ARE YOU DOING ABOUT THEM?











Friday, September 26, 2008

IF YOU ASKED ME TO

Céline Dion covered IF YOU ASKED ME TO and released it as the second single from her eponymous album. It was produced by Walter Afanasieff and was released on April 6, 1992 in the United States, and later the same year in the rest of the world. The song was a hit in the United States and Canada. "If You Asked Me To" reached number 4 on the Billboard Hot 100 (number 3 on the Billboard Hot 100 Airplay and number 11 on the Hot 100 Singles Sales) and did even better on the Hot Adult Contemporary Tracks chart, spending three weeks at number 1. In Canada, it reached number 3 on the singles sales chart and number 1 on the radio chart. The single had moderate success elsewhere. "If You Asked Me To" was released twice in the United Kingdom: first, in June 1992, when it peaked at number 60, and the second time in December 1992, when it reached number 57. According to Nielsen Sound Scan, the single sold 413,000 copies in the U.S. This song in my opinion shows Celine’s classic style and is DEFINITELY a favorite of mine.

¿WHY ARE WOMEN LESBIAN?





As a gay man I have come across other gay men that asked WHY WOULD A WOMAN BE A LESBIAN? And of course I was dumb founded as I am NOT a lesbian and found it quite peculiar AND interesting to say the least. If you think about it from a typical point of view, most lesbians use a phallic  symbol to cap of a sexual encounter after oral sex. Hence comes most of the confusion, with gay men they are giving themselves something that NO woman ever could and there is NOTHING from the opposite sex involved. After doing some reading and research of my own I realized that LESBIANS aren’t just women that couldn’t find a man to satisfy them…nor is it something hormonal. I have come to see that SEX is a case by case bases and each and everyone of us have different things that work for us. It took me a while but I got why a woman would want to be with another woman; after all woman knows what a woman want AND need. So it is PERFECTLY natural that there are women out there that express themselves in this way sexually. It is about their LOVE, ATTRACTION, SEXUAL DESIRE and AFFECTION FOR EACH OTHER. I guess in order to make sense of this we need to ask ourselves WHY ARE WE GAY or STRAIGHT? I would think that it is MORE than NOT wanting a woman if you are gay OR wanting the same-sex if you are not. LOVE is LOVE and lesbians feel emotions just like everyone else on this planet. I FEEL THAT GOD TEST WHAT WE THINK WE KNOW & BELIEVE ALL THE TIME; & LESBIANISM IS VERY MUCH APART OF THAT.  I LOVE THAT THERE ARE WOMEN OUT THERE WHO CAN FIND THEIR SOUL-MATE IN ANOTHER WOMAN; & THIS SHOWS THAT WE NEED TO REALIZE THAT SEXUALITY GOES BEYOND WHAT WE THINK WE KNOW OR FEEL. IT IS ABOUT TWO PERSONS FINDING EACH OTHER & MAKING A LIFE WITH EACH OTHER, EVEN IF THEY ARE LESBIAN.

Wednesday, September 24, 2008

BOYZ PLAY WITH BOYZ











NEVER in my
wildest dreams did I think that I was
 GAY or that my playing with my male friends in that way was such
a bad thing. Moreover I didn’t understand until now why I got punished for
taking
 PLAY TIME even further. If only I could have been told that NOTHING was wrong with
me by those in charge
 AND that sexuality is PERFECTLY natural…WISHFUL
THINKING
I SUPPOSE…They thought that they had caged the monster, but how long can you keep a beast in
captivity before it turns on you?


As a result I held a lot inside and I
only THANK GOD
 that I didn’t do anything to hurt myself. But it is hard
living and knowing that you are different and that you are something the world
doesn’t approve of. I guess those around me found it
 EXTREMELY difficult to
live in a world where we do
 NOT pass any gender stereotypes. Looking back, I suppose @ that
time in my life my heart knew that being with my friends in that way was nature
and
 NOT nurture, only my brain couldn’t formulate this. Moreover, I
wish that my actions said that being
 GAY is just a variation in Genes and is NO different from someone having blue OR brown eyes.


I guess my playing with my friends in
this way caused them to associate me playing with girl toys
 AND doing girly things. Nonetheless, I can’t help but to wonder if either of
those things are such a bad thing. WHY WERE MY THOUGHTS OF THINKING HOW BEAUTIFUL
MY FRIENDS WERE IS SUCH A NO NO? 
Talk
about NOT knowing your
place in the world…I guess I was supposed to be a SLAVE and try to be someone that I am NOT! GOD TALK
ABOUT PAIN & SUFFERING…CAN YOU IMAGINE JUST LIVING EACH DAY PRAYING THAT
YOU CAN BE HAPPY & FULFILLED?
I wish that so many of us could find that boy again AND experience life without it
being seen as good OR bad…right OR wrong…I find it RATHER sad that as we grow up we LOOSE our
way AND are continually influenced by
the beliefs
AND ideas of an unjust society
that STEALS OUR FREEDOM.


Homosexuality is frowned upon by so
many and those who partake in it are viewed as perverted
 OR sick. If only those involved would choose to live in a
manner which is accepting to them
 AND NOT the
other way around. But I guess through
 NO fault
of their own most grownups live in a world that tells them constantly that a
relationship needs to take on a certain look; and that is SHOULD
 be between a man AND a woman. But the MAN that I am knows that the boy I
was that liked playing with others boys was onto something. I MEAN HOW DOES A
 MAN TRY TO
LIVE A
 LIFE ACCORDING TO THE COMMONLY ACCEPTED BELIEF THAT HOMOSEXUALITY
IS WRONG?
 Don’t
get me wrong, I get that
 HOMOSEXUALITY is NOT for everyone; but @ the same time, I believe the same goes
for traditional relationships. Many of us are
 IDEALLY suited for HOMOSEXUALITY, yet we
succumb to the pressure of society. Submissiveness is a quality that is deemed
a sign of weakness and making the choice to
 ACCEPT ones sexuality opens one to rejection by family and friends.
Nevertheless, it is also one that ULTIMATELY
 leads to the path of FREEDOM. 


MOST OF US
CAN REMEMBER THE FEELING OF BEING HOME THINKING BACK TO OUR CHILDHOOD, IF ONLY
WE COULD FIND SOMEWAY TO
 TAP INTO
THAT PART OF OURSELVES. LIVING A
LIFE
 ACCORDING TO WHAT
IS TRUE FOR ONESELF IS WHAT FREEDOM IS; & THAT IS WHAT I BELIEVE THAT ‘GOD’
MEANT FOR US TO DO. WHEN I THINK ABOUT ME PLAYING WITH OTHER BOYS WHEN I WAS A
 BOY MYSELF,
I CAN ONLY THANK ‘GOD’ THAT I VALUE, APPRECIATE, RESPECT & LOVE MYSELF
ENOUGH TO NEVER TO ALLOW OTHERS TO CAUSE ME TO SELF-DESTRUCTIVE.

BECAUSE I BELIEVE...










I Believe...


That just because two people argue,


It doesn't mean they
don't love each other.


And just because they
don't argue,


It doesn't mean they do
love each other.


 I Believe...


That we don't have to
change friends if


We understand that
friends change.


I Believe...


That no matter how good
a friend is,


They're going to hurt you
every once in a while


And you must forgive
them for that.


I Believe...


That true friendship
continues to grow, even over


The longest distance…


The same goes for TRUE love.


I Believe....


That you can do
something in an instant


That will give you
heartache for life.


I Believe...


That you should always
leave loved ones with


Loving words


It may be the last time
you see them.


I Believe...


That you can keep going
long after you think you can't.


I Believe...


That we are responsible
for what


We do, no matter how we
feel.


I Believe...


That either you control
your attitude or it controls you.


I Believe...


That heroes are the
people who do what has to be done


When it needs to be
done, regardless of the consequences.


I Believe...


That money is a lousy
way of keeping score.


I Believe...


That he & I could do
anything OR nothing and have the best time.


I Believe...


That sometimes the
people you expect to kick you


When you're down, will
be the ones to help you get back up.


I Believe...


That sometimes when I'm
angry I have the right to be angry,  


But that doesn't give me
the right to be cruel.


I Believe...


That maturity has more
to do with what types of experiences you've had


And what you've learned
from them and less to do


With how many birthdays
you've celebrated.


I Believe...


That it isn't always
enough, to be forgiven by others.


Sometimes, you have to
learn to forgive yourself.


I Believe...


That no matter how bad
your heart is broken the world doesn't stop for your grief.


I Believe...


That our background and
circumstances may have influenced who we are,


But, we are responsible
for who we become.


I Believe...


That you shouldn't be so
eager to find


Out a secret. It could
change your life forever.


I Believe...


Two people can look at
the exact same


Thing and see something
totally different.


I Believe...


That your life can be
changed in a matter of


Hours by people who
don't even know you.


I Believe...


That even when you think
you have no more to give, when


A friend cries out to
you - you will find the strength to help.


I Believe...


Those credentials on the
wall do not make you a decent human being.


I Believe...


That the people you care
about most in life are taken from you too soon.


I Believe...


The happiest of people
don't necessarily have the best of everything:


They just make the best
of everything they have.


I Believe…




Life is a gift given by the God to us.




I Believe…


Life is like a diamond which makes us beautiful




And shows us how much precious we are.


So fill your life with full of colors.


Don't waste it or spoil it.


Because God will never give you a second chance.




I Believe…

Tuesday, September 23, 2008

WELCOME TO WELLNESS












Wellness—as
opposed to fitness—is making a comeback among gay men, and with good reason.
Where a previous generation thought of wellness as just the absence of illness,
these days wellness programs acknowledge that there's a lot more to being well
than just not getting sick. And, at different moments of your life, how you
assess your wellness, and what you need to do to maintain it, will
substantially change. To stay well, you need to be able to gauge your wellness,
and take steps to correct imbalances in your life. In this and subsequent
pieces, I'll point some potential challenges to wellness at different ages, and
direct you to some resources that can help keep you on track. Whether you're in
your twenties, thirties, forties, fifties or sixties, there are actions you can
undertake to keep well. Today we'll start with some introductory wellness tips
for guys in their twenties—but if you've already left that decade behind, stay
tuned. In the coming weeks, I'll have tips for the more…mature population as well.
GETTING STARTED: WHAT IS WELLNESS? If wellness isn't just avoiding
getting sick, then what is it? Wellness experts identify six major areas of
wellness. Take a look at them and think about the form they take in your
life—bearing in mind that there may be overlap between categories. 













  • PHYSICAL: Your physical wellness includes all the things
    you would expect, like your cardiovascular fitness, your strength, and your
    endurance; but it also includes preventive measures, such as regular testing
    for diseases, and maintaining a healthy diet, even if you're not overweight. In
    a traditional wellness program, the physical would be the entire
    emphasis—notice here that it's only one of six elements. That is because the
    body's wellness does not exist in a vacuum; it is part of an overall goal of
    health for the entire individual.













  • SOCIAL: Social wellness is not just about having fun. It's also a way of
    addressing your interdependence with the people around you. You will have a
    better, healthier life (and body) if you have strong relationships and a sense
    of community. In fact, studies show that people who have strong social networks
    tend to live longer. But you will have to actively promote and maintain those
    relationships, rather than just rely on them to be there when you really need
    them. 







  • SPIRITUAL: We often think of spirituality as necessarily
    meaning religion. And, for some people, religion will certainly be a key part
    of a spiritual life. But from a wellness point of view, spiritual fulfillment
    will more generally mean feeling that there is a purpose to your life. This can
    range from practicing meditation, to taking up volunteer activities in your
    community. Anything you do that lets you feel that you are here for a reason,
    and that you have a connection beyond the purely physical (even in a mind/body
    sense) will form part of your spiritual life.














  • INTELLECTUAL:
    Your intellectual development doesn't stop after school ends. Later in life you
    can, of course, pursue another degree—but you can also find other ways of
    maintaining your intellectual wellness. Creativity can do this, for instance,
    by stimulating new areas of your mind. Take up a new art, or some writing. Try
    to find mentally stimulating activities. The idea is to expand your sphere of
    interest beyond what you already find comfortable. 








  • OCCUPATIONAL: You probably spend eight to 10 of your waking
    hours in a workplace that you hope will be fulfilling, where you are setting
    and meeting goals, and where you feel a sense of achievement. To get to this
    state, you want to stay on top of your occupational wellness. Do you do work
    that you enjoy, and is it satisfying? Do you like both your work and your job,
    or only one? Does what you do match what you want from life, and how you see
    yourself? Note that this is not necessarily about financial gain; this is about
    fulfillment in your job and your profession. 













  • PSYCHOLOGICAL: Your psychological wellness may be heavily dependent on
    other areas of your life. Problems elsewhere—in your relationships, or your
    career—will take a toll on your psychology. That's why you need to be able to
    assess where you stand emotionally, and have strategies for improving your
    feelings. What would you need to change in your life to feel better about
    yourself? Are there habits of mind that are keeping you back in life? Is there
    a form of therapy that you want to think about taking on to work on your
    psychological wellness, whether traditional psychotherapy, or hypnosis or other
    more alternative methods?















I hope that EVERY glance at this
list will leave you wondering where to put the various elements of your life.
After all, your friendships are part of your social wellness, but if they are
work friends they may be part of your occupational situation, and will, sooner
or later, cross into your psychological wellness. Most of the elements of your
life will not fall sharply into one single category. That's OK—instead of thinking of these as
hard-and-fast categories, you want to assess how the elements of your life are
interconnected, and how changes in one area bring changes elsewhere. Your goal
isn't to separate the pieces of your life into categories, but to try to
restore balance when something in your life brings one category out of kilter
with the others. Only you know your own life—and so it's up to you to develop a
thorough portrait of what things in your life impact which areas of your
wellness.

Sunday, September 21, 2008

THE CONDOMN CONUNDRUM




As many as 4 out of 10 HIV-positive black men could be putting their partners at risk by not using condoms, according to research in the Journal of Advanced Nursing. The study found that many of the 40- to 65-year-olds were engaging in high-risk sexual practices, including 38% who didn’t use condoms during oral sex, 25% who had unprotected vaginal sex, and 22% who engaged in unsafe anal sex. The research also showed that men who were single and displayed fewer HIV symptoms were least likely to use condoms during sex. “Despite the worrying number of men not using condoms, 78% of those who took part in the study were able to answer questions about HIV correctly, and 25% claimed to be knowledgeable about the subject but still engaged in risky sex,” says Christopher Lance Coleman, Ph.D., of the University of Pennsylvania School of Nursing. The findings are worrying, he adds, particularly in view of rising HIV rates among black Americans. “Health promotion messages have traditionally been targeted at young people,” Coleman points out, “but the increased prevalence of older ethnic males with HIV makes it essential for health professionals to promote safer sex and increased condom use with this group.”















The Trap 




The Trap





I wrapped myself in a mess





Thinking about it caused stress





Which isn’t good for my HIV status





The unhappy mood lowered my t cells





I should escape it by going in a shell





It would put me at ease





I could end up in a decease world





Only I don’t pass the problem





I wished I forget about it





Why dished it out with the problem?





I fished for answers and a solution





It’s causing me no good





A friend gave me food for thought





“Annoy the person and the problem.





Let it work itself out of it.”





Some stupid things get the best of me





I feel for the trap




Saturday, September 20, 2008

EARTHLY DIVINITY...









God
may have given
MAN dominion over the Earth, but does that mean HE can impose HIS beliefs on others AND still expect to make it through the pearly gates
of heaven? The right to make your own choices is a precious one. And it is a
known fact that we grow when we have the freedom to decide OUR own paths
AND determine what makes US happy. Yet we live in a
time when there are those who are inclined to try and control others. This
control I call RELIGION. When it
comes to RELIGION so many feel that
their way is the best way OR that
they have a keener insight into the direction God wants our lives to take. I ALWAYS find it interesting that those
who are SO filled with God’s love
feel that they and they ALONE have
this connection with OUR maker; and this
is TOTALLY NOT the case.
Nonetheless, more
AND more of us REJECT
their so-call control and they just pass us off as persons that are demon
possessed OR unworthy. WOULDN’T IT BE
EASIER TO ALLOW US TO FIND OUR OWN METHODS & JOY IN KNOWING WHO GOD IS? WE
ARE THE EXPRESSION
OF GOD IN OUR INDIVIDUALITY.
In
Him WE live
AND move, he is ONE with us AND we with he. After all we won’t be judged as a congregation
OR community effort. Hence WE should STRIVES for improvement, SEEK
out knowledge and SEARCH for HIS EARTHLY DIVINE…the ESSENCE of spirituality. Aren’t we all
fundamentally spiritual beings whose essence lies in knowing one's true self
AND finding a peace that comes from within rather
than the outside world? Hence finding our EARTHLY
DIVINE
merely means that WE need to practice COMPASSION, GRATITUDE, APPRECIATION, FORGIVENESS, GENEROSITY and TAKE
CARE of each other’s wellbeing. Therefore, WE need to understand that this control
mechanism that exists in this world does NOT
allow us to operate in the vain that God seeks. From one human to another we
are driven by INSECURITY, ENVY, FEAR
or the need for POWER that causes us
to do some unimaginable things to each other. ISN’T TIME THAT WE STOP? GOD KNOWS THAT I AM NOT RELIGIOUS BUT I DO
BELIEVE A COMMON INTELLIGENCE CREATED
ALL LIVING
ORGANIC SPECIES ON THIS PLANET. WE HUMANS DEPEND ON THIS UNDERSTANDING & SENSE
OF SYMBIOTIC RELATIONSHIP FOR OUR
LIFE, HEALTH,
WELLBEING & INDEED, FOR OUR VERY EXISTENCE & SURVIVAL. TODAY I FEEL THAT
WE
ARE EXPERIENCING
THE RESULTS OF OUR DISCONNECT FROM THIS WISDOM & WE CAN ONLY
HEAL IF WE
RE-REMEMBER THAT WE
ARE A
SPECIES WITHIN THE WHOLE & NOT SEPARATE FROM IT.
ALL SPECIES
ARE EQUAL
IN THEIR OWN RIGHT & DESERVE RESPECT...OUR NATURAL WORLD & THE WHOLE
ORGANIC
WEB OF LIFE IS SO
INCREDIBLY BEAUTIFUL,
AWE-INSPIRING
& THE INTELLIGENCE OF IT
ALL IS MIND
BOGGLING. THE LIMITATIONS & INCOMPLETE UNDERSTANDING OF
MAN & RELIGION
ALONE CANNOT RESTORE THE DESPERATELY NEEDED BALANCE TO OUR PLANET…THAT COMES FROM
FINDING OUR EARTHLY DIVINE…

UNDERSTANDING

UNDERSTANDING is the title of a number-one R&B single by group Xscape. It was the group's second consecutive #1 R&B hit after the success of the smash hit "Just Kickin' It". The hit song reached #8 on the Billboard Hot 100 and spent two weeks at number-one on the U.S. R&B chart. Though I like the debut single "Just Kickin' It" I have a SPECIAL love for this song because the words are timeless AND enduring.

Thursday, September 18, 2008

¿JEALOUS MUCH?





Ever notice how JEALOUSY is the demon with MANY heads when it comes to US gay men? I ask this question because the other night I was having a conversation with someone that I hadn’t heard from in a number of years. And before we began the catching up phase of our conversation, he asked me WHERE MY SIGNIFICANT OTHER WAS? I thought to myself what does he have to do with this conversation? Then he said HE DIDN’T WANT TO CAUSE ANY FRICTION BECAUSE HE KNOWS HOW JEALOUS GAY MEN ARE. Now I thought to myself that is TRUE for most of us but NOT all. Furthermore, he should have remembered that I am NOT one of those gay men that behaved in a typical gay fashion NOR do I entertain that sort of behavior from ANYONE that I am in a relationship with. Nonetheless, he insisted on carrying on with this topic and I knocked down each AND every concern he threw my way. After about 7 minutes of this we had a GREAT conversation; and afterwards I couldn’t help but to ask myself WHY GAY MEN ARE SO JEALOUS. We are born with MUCH confusion AND misunderstanding when it comes to OUR sexuality, so WHY are we behaving this way with each other? As I sat and ponder this question I realized that the LEADING cause for JEALOUSY exists because of FEAR. Now this FEAR could be real OR a figment of the mind. No matter what fuels this energy, the over whelming feeling of being abandoned OR unloved is common for all human beings. Nonetheless, I find it AMAZING how MOST gay men allow JEALOUSY to take over their lives. This NEGATIVE energy only further divides AND hurt us with the intent of forcing us to become someone else entirely. And this WILL eat away @ the one thing that holds a relationship together: TRUST! For we GAY men, JEALOUSY takes away quality time with our partners AND it UNDOUBTEDLY lead to numerous fights that will showcase each other's negative qualities. Even more dangerous, we end up spending the bulk of our time foolishly thinking up scenarios in which our relationships are being hurt. Hence the GREATER part of the relationship is spent on what could be happening rather than what is happening. Therefore what we will have left is another relationship that did NOT work out…ALL BECAUSE OUR INSECURITIESBut have NO fear; I feel that we can get a handle on this NEGATIVE energy. For the most part, this energy is a byproduct of OUR issues with self-confidence AND self-esteem. Hence feeling that we are NOT good enough OR unworthy causes us to feel this way. If only we realize that the MATURE thing to do with JEALOUSY is to channel it in a positive manner. Therefore I say WE LEARN FROM PAST EXPERIENCES, DEAL WITH REALITY & RESPECT OURSELVES & OTHERS. Envy DRAINS the soul and will make us miserable; and truth be told life is NOT a contest. Hence the ONLY way to change a JEALOUS feeling, one has to change their PERSPECTIVE. While you may not be able to completely change the feeling that causes JEALOUSY, YOU can change YOUR perspective and eliminate it from your life. I UNDERSTAND THAT THERE IS NOTHING WORSE THAN AN ACHING SENSE THAT SOMEHOW LOVE HAS BEEN UNFAIR TO YOU, WHILE SEEMINGLY REWARDING ANOTHER. MOREOVER, IT IS WORST IF THAT SOMEONE IS THE THING THAT IS MAKING IT DIFFICULT TO GET THE SPACE NEEDED TO HEAL THIS PAIN. NONETHELESS, WHATEVER THE SITUATION, WE HAVE TO FIND A WAY TO NORMALIZE THIS EMOTION AS A COMMON HUMAN FEELING & NOTHING MORE. SO ADDING THIS ELEMENT TO A FRAGILE RELATIONSHIP IS LIKE TRYING TO BUY SOMETHING WHEN YOU HAVE NO CASH…IT MAKES NO SENSE! IS THERE ANY WONDER WHY WE ARE CONSTANTLY ALONE & OUR RELATIONSHIPS FAIL? ISN’T IT TIME WE GET OURSELVES TOGETHER & PUT THIS BABY TO BED?

TODAY IS SUMMER LEISURE DAY!