Wednesday, October 29, 2008

FLIRTING…WHILE IN A RELATIONSHIP


A relationship usually means you're exclusive to one person, giving your heart and soul to your mate, at least within reason. We're supposed to feel strongly about that person; and that person only. But does the world stop turning because you're hitched? OF COURSE IT DOES NOT! Is it normal to stop looking only because your other half says so? It's normal for your lover to want you only to himself, but that shouldn't discard the possibility of sightseeing on the beautiful hills of MAN LAND? Looking and playful flirting can be considered healthy components of keeping a strong relationship going. However, when MOST men give an eye to another it is the equivalent of child that is NOT supposed to eat candy before supper…he'll want to do it even more, just because he ISN’T supposed to. I find that men tend to more sexual than women so when GAY men are involved things escalate to another level. But I feel that if they were to realize everything that followed flirting many would stop at the mere thought of it. The key aspect is to remember the LOOK, DON’T TOUCH code of ethics. If you see a sexy man wearing no shirt a pair of shorts and gym shoes, playing basketball, take it for what it's worth and enjoy the view. As long as it stays at that level, no harm done. Think of it as if you are window shopping, it is when you walk into the store to inquire about OR make the purchase is when you are in dangerous territory. I have to admit that there are men that I saw and I thought if it were a year earlier then they so would get it. But where I am in my life I am QUITE content AND happy so the thought of wasting precious energy on such things just tarnish a relationship that is way TOO important to me. For most of us SO hard to ignore that voice that says HE IS HOT & YOU MUST HAVE HIM. Because after you cum, then what? I say LET HUMAN NATURE TAKE IT’S COURSE & ALLOW THE FEELINGS TO BE JUST THAT FEELINGS, BECAUSE @ THE END OF THE DAY YOU DON’T WANT TO GET IN PROBLEMS BECAUSE OF FLIRTING GONE WRONG. IMAGINE YOUR PARTNER FLIRTING WITH SOMEONE ELSE, HOW WOULD THAT MAKE YOU FEEL? @ THE END OF IT ALL I HOPE THAT YOU ASSUME THE ROLE OF THE SIGHTSEER & FEAST YOUR EYES ON THE EYE CANDY OUT THERE…IT CAN BE GOOD FOR YOU & YOU CAN CERTAINLY AVOID THOSE TOOTH ACHES…

Tuesday, October 28, 2008

WRITE TO MARRY DAY




WHAT IS CALIFORNIA PROPOSITION 8?

Proposition 8 (officially called the Eliminates Right of Same-Sex Couples to Marry Act) is an initiative on the November 2008 California voter ballot which, if passed, would alter the California Constitution defining marriage as between one man and one woman. If Proposition 8 passes same-sex marriage will be illegal in California. This is the first time voters will be asked to ban same-sex marriage in a state where gay couples already have won the right to wed. The original title of the measure was "California Marriage Protection Act," but it was changed to "Eliminates Right of Same-Sex Couples to Marry Act" by Attorney General Jerry Brown to accurately reflect what the true meaning of the measure.

CALIFORNIA GAY MARRIAGE PROMPTS INITIATIVE:

On May 15, 2008, in a 4-3 decision, California's Supreme Court ruled in favor of plaintiffs (comprised of gay rights group Equality California, almost two dozen gay couples, and the city of San Francisco), who argued that the 2000 law banning same-sex marriage in the state was discriminatory. The decision made California the second U.S. state to legalize gay marriage. Thousands of same-sex couples flocked to the altars. The ruling prompted an anti-gay marriage campaign, which resulted in Proposition 8.

WHO’S BEHIND PROPOSITION 8?

A conservative group of organizers with ties to the anti-gay group Focus on the Family placed Proposition 8 on the ballot. The initiative has gained very public support from The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints, California's Roman Catholic bishops and several evangelical ministries.

IF PROPOSITION 8 PASSES, WHAT WOULD HAPPEN TO EXISTING SAME-SEX MARRIAGES?  

California Attorney General Jerry Brown says that existing gay marriages would most likely remain legal even if Proposition 8 passes. "I believe that marriages that have been entered into subsequent to the [May 15] Supreme Court opinion will be recognized by the California Supreme Court," Brown told The Chronicle.

HOW YOU CAN HELP DEFEAT PROPOSITION 8:

You can help defeat Proposition 8 by donating to the campaign or volunteering at NoOnProp8.com.

Monday, October 27, 2008

THE STATE OF BEING...

 If BEING comes to us from God and the verb TO BE is a STATE OF BEING and not an action verb. And People don’t say I DO HAPPY THAT IT’S MY BIRTHDAY, I DO CONFUSED ABOUT THIS MATH PROBLEM or I DO SAD THAT YOU’RE MOVING AWAY. They say I AM...when they talk about their current STATE OF BEING. SO IF OUR SEXUALITY IS PART OF OUR BEING & PEOPLE DO NOT SAY I DO STRAIGHT or I DO GAY. They say I AM STRAIGHT or I AM GAY. SO WHY WHEN WE SPEAK ABOUT OUR SEXUALITY, WE DESCRIBE HOW WE ARE RATHER THAN WHO WE ARE?

Sunday, October 26, 2008

HAPPY EARTH~DAY ®‡ø






Parts Of YOU
 
Enjoy the ride as YOU flow through the universe
For today YOU only become this age but once. 
For 364 days of out the year 
YOU struggle against the current of life 
Trying to do things in your own way
And today YOU can. 
I can go on and tell that YOU are a STRANGE person 
But YOU know that already. 
I can write about how INVISIBLE YOU are 
But what’s the point?
The ONLY thing I ask on this day,
Is that YOU LET YOURSELF BE SEEN
I want YOU to transform yourself 
As YOU get closer AND closer to man that YOU are becoming. 
STAND in front of yourself 
And thank YOU for being here for YOU. 
Feel the gratitude, attention, warmth, and support,
While noticing the sense of safety YOU feel 
As YOU surround YOU. 
Feel inspired, 
Share your innermost thoughts. 
YOU may be surprised at the feelings of peace 
When YOU feel safe enough to go deep into your soul 
And share yourself with YOU
YOU are
For life is but a memory of a memory
And it is time to unbind
All that has left YOU behind 
The dread of the nothing
That strikes fear in the heart of the hereafter
And beyond and before and after
And beyond the unimaginable
But YOU know all of this already…
YOU are the struggle
Between the NO nothing
And the KNOW nothing…
This I can assure YOU is NOT nothing,
So fly free
And touch the parts YOU that YOU can see…


tgk ©
 

WEEDS OF CHAOS (REFLECTIONS)


Noel has asked me on a few occasions, HOW HAS MY LIFE CHANGED IN THE PAST YEAR? I would always give him an answer, but the answer didn’t come from my heart until now…I was watching Oprah the other day and she had a guest that was talking about standing on the shoulders of others to get where you ought to be and I realized that I now incorporate this notion in my life but that wasn’t always the case. For a LONG time I’ve been the GO-TO-GUY, the one that EVERYONE could count on to be there for them. And this was causing me MORE problems than I needed in my life. I realized that I was NOT taking care of myself and put ME first. Hence I made some CHANGES and did NOT allow this seed to grown into WEEDS OF CHAOS & DESTRUCTION. I am that person that has a UNIQUE perspective on life and the past year showed me that I was waiting on PEOPLE, PLACES & THINGS to change in order for me progress AND grow. Now I realized that if I wanted change I had to change. I had to REMOVE myself from the dysfunctional situations that invaded my PERSONAL space because of others. And today I can say that I have developed character because of the challenges that I faced. I realized that the lesson IS the journey AND it is up to me realize that I need to open my mind and take it all in or else it’ll destroy me. OVER THE PAST YEAR, I’VE EVOLVED INTO AN INCREDIBLE & FASCINATING HUMAN BEING & THAT’S ALL BECAUSE I CHOSE TO WEED OUT THE CHAOS & PUT MY ENERGY WHERE IT IS NEEDED MOST. SO WHETHER IT IS YOUR LOVER, FAMILY OR FRIEND, YOU CANNOT DO A SINGLE THING IF THEY COME TO YOU MESSED UP & CONFUSED. IT IS MY OPINION THAT WE ALL NEED EACH OTHER, BUT HOW MANY OF US REALLY NEED EACH OTHER?

Saturday, October 25, 2008

¡HAPPY ANNIVERSARY BABY!






It is said that
one day for ‘God’ is a thousand years
for us and today as I celebrate my FIRST year
anniversary with Noel, this saying holds SO much truth. This felt like a long time coming and @ the
same time it still feels like we are meeting for the first time. I wrote a blogentry exactly one year ago to the day asking questions that in a few hours
later gave me hope in the possibility of NOT just finding someone, but finding THE one. 
I have always
prayed that one day I would meet a certain man that would have the important
qualities that I hope for. This man I created in my mind has materialized into
being and I cannot express how much LOVE I
have for him. It is as if we were made for each other because our lives run
parallel with each other. We have almost the same life story, the same woes,
and the same problems. We even have so many similar characteristics and many
things about us are the same. Before I met him, many things contributed to
making my life miserable and sad. I am positive person, but as I grew older,
negativism AND pessimism
had found me. 
When I met him,
everything changed. He has brought meaning, positivism 
AND inspiration to my life. Our
partnership 
hasn't been weakened 
AND destroyed
by 
NEEDS, EXPECTATIONS, WANTS,
CLINGING, INSECURITIES, 
CONTROL  JEALOUSIES
 and other ego-based
imperfections that plague us. In fact it is 
MY belief that we have thrived AND is celebrating what I am sure will be the first of MANY anniversaries because of
those things. I say this because the foundation of 
OUR relationship is built on an UNCONDITIONAL LOVE for the other; anchored by the FREEDOM to be who WE are, without false pretense. WE know EXACTLY how to express OUR SEXUALITY which is one of ‘God's’ gifts that creates feelings of
divine oneness, PASSION that we
cannot deny; JOY that goes
beyond anything that exists in this world and LOVE that keeps us. SO many
gay relationships fall apart and I feel that this happens because SO many of us are NOT honest AND real with each other. I
believe that because of who we are is the reason WE have transcended everything we've experienced in the past.
I get that we are a rarity, but we are nonetheless…& I THANK ‘GOD’ THAT I CAN CELEBRATE THIS DAY WITHOUT FEAR OR
TREPIDATION…HAPPY ANNIVERSARY BABY, I LOVE YOU…

Friday, October 24, 2008

¿WHO IS THIS MAN?





Have
you ever been taken aback, rendered speechless AND captivated by someone all @ the same time? I have…The other day
Noel and I were grocery shopping and as we were done, I walked to the cashier
and placed my items on the counter. After doing so I looked up and caught a
glimpse of a man that seemed to stop time for a moment. He TOTALLY had me and wasn’t going to let go and I did NOT want him to…it didn’t occurred to
me that I was enthralled by someone that wasn’t Noel, it felt NATURAL like I was looking @ the
spiritual being that I was going to be with for the rest of my life. So imagine
how I felt when I refocused my gaze and realized that this man was none other MY Noel. My heart smiled as I felt the
presence of him wash all over me. It felt SO
good to have this experience because it made me see that he is NOT a fluke OR coincidence. He was sent here on a mission to LOVE, HONOR & CHERISH me…he is that
song with NO beginning OR end…he is that element that I crave
with an EQUAL measure of fear AND fascination. Seeing him again just gives
me a DEEPER and PROFOUND appreciation for the
sacredness of OUR union. I LOVE the fact that he is apart of the plan that WE prepared before entering the Earth's
plane…I LOVE YOU & I THANK GOD THAT YOU
ARE IN LIFE…
¿WHO IS THIS MAN?

Thursday, October 23, 2008

DISARMING THE KNOW-IT-ALL





Most of us have encountered a person in our lives who can accurately be
referred to as a know-it-all. This person seems to know everything about
anything that gets brought up and tends to dominate the conversation. They
don't take well to being questioned, and they have a hard time ever admitting
that they were wrong. Being around a know-it-all is inevitably tiring because
there is no shared power between the two of you. Rather, you become an audience
member to this person's need to be the center of attention. Attention and
respect are probably the two things this person most longs for, and at some
point in their lives, they learned that knowing it all was the way to get those
needs met. Over time, they have become stuck in this pattern, regardless of the
fact that it is no longer working. They may feel afraid of the experience of
listening, being receptive, or learning something new, because it's so
unfamiliar. On the one hand, when we see the childlike need underneath the know-it-all's
mask of confidence, we feel compassion for the person, and we may tolerate
their one-sided approach to conversation out of a desire not to hurt their
feelings. On the other hand, we may be feeling drained and tempted to avoid
this person altogether. In the middle of these two possible ways of feeling, we
may actually like this person and wish for a closer relationship. If we come
from a place of kindness, we might attempt to bridge the gap that this person's
habitual way of relating creates. Simply expressing a desire to be closer may
open their heart, and give you a chance to ask for what you need in the
relationship-a chance to contribute.

Tuesday, October 21, 2008

KEEPING IT ALL IN PERSPECTIVE…









If Earth's population was shrunk into a
village of just 100 people-with all the human ratios existing in the world
still remaining-what would this tiny, diverse village look like? That's exactly
what Phillip M. Harter, a medical doctor at the Stanford University School of
Medicine, attempted to figure out. This is what he found:






57 would be Asian



21 would be European


14 would be from the Western Hemisphere


8 would be African


52 would be female


48 would be male


70 would be nonwhite


30 would be white


70 would be non-Christian


30 would be Christian


89 would be heterosexual


11 would be homosexual


6 people would possess 59 percent of
the entire world's wealth, and all 6 would be from the
United
States
.


80 would live in substandard housing


70 would be unable to read


50 would suffer from malnutrition


1 would be near death


1 would be pregnant


1 would have a college education



1 would own a computer






I thought this was interesting and wanted
to share this with you because as I read this I thought to myself that… If you
have food in the refrigerator, clothes on your back, a roof overhead and a
place to sleep...you are richer than so many persons in this world. If you have
money in the bank, in your wallet, and spare change in a dish someplace you are
among the worlds wealthy. If you woke up this morning with more health than
illness...you are more fortunate than the many who will not survive this week. If
you have never experienced the danger of battle, the loneliness of imprisonment,
the agony of torture, or the pangs of starvation, you are ahead of a lot of people
in the world. If you can attend a church meeting without fear of harassment,
arrest, torture, or death...you are fortunate, quite a number of people in the
world can't. If you hold up your head with a smile on your face and are truly thankful...
you are blessed because the majority can, but most do not. If you can hold
someone's hand, hug them or even touch them on the shoulder...you are blessed
because you can offer a healing touch…I GUESS
@ THE END OF IT ALL IT IS ALL ABOUT KEEPING IT IN PERSPECTIVE…

THE HETERO~PAPARAZZI




So I started a new job yesterday and of course there are persons that want to know about me. Where you worked before? How old are you? Are you married? Do you have any kids? But the one question that has yet to be asked is about my sexuality...How LONG do you think that'll take? I am in NO way shape OR form ashamed of MY sexuality, in fact I would shout it out from the roof tops if I felt that it would bring some change. But alas I know that I am a private person and don't feel the need to put myself out there for NO one's curiousity. I just found it interesting how SO many heteros are EXTREMELY concerned about the amount of pussy that I crush (or lack thereof). NO matter anyways I am happy with who I am and I won't change that for anyone...BUT JUST OUT TYPICAL HETERO FASHION HOW LONG WILL IT TAKE FOR THE PEANUT GALLERY TO START SIPPING ABOUT ME IF THEY AREN'T ALREADY?

Monday, October 20, 2008

CUTTING CORDS (MEN ARE LIKE APPLES)









It
is my belief that MEN are like APPLES on trees. The best ones are @
the top, but the boys don’t want to reach for the good ones because they are
afraid of falling AND getting hurt. Instead,
they get the rotten apples from the ground that aren’t as good. But easy. So
the apples up top think something is wrong with them when in reality they’re
amazing. They just have to wait for the right boy to come along, the one who’s
brave enough to climb all the way to the top of the tree. So many of us has had
our fair share of ROTTEN apples and
for some reason many of us seem to keep them so near AND dear to our hearts
when they need to be processed AND
released. IT IS ALL ABOUT A SENSE OF
CLOSURE & CUTTING EMOTIONAL CORDS…
In our relationships we are
constantly exchanging energy that can become a chord connecting us. This
energetic cord forms just below the breastbone and can remain long after a
relationship has ended. This unbroken cord may leave an open channel between
you and him, through which emotions and energy can continue to flow. Besides
the fact that this can limit the amount of closure you can experience in a
relationship, letting this cord remain intact can leave you with a continued
sense of sadness while creating feelings of lethargy as your own energy is
sapped from you. Cutting the cord can help you separate yourself from old
baggage, unnecessary attachments, and release you from connections that are no
longer serving you. Finding and cutting unwanted cords is a simple, gentle
process that is best done alone and when you are relaxed. It is important that
you are strong in your intention to release the chord between you and someone
else. When you are ready, visualize or sense the chords that are connecting you
to other people. Run your fingers through the cords to separate them until you
find the cord you wish to sever. There is no need to worry, because the chord
you need to sever will feel just right. When you have found it, determine where
the cut should be made and then visualize the cord being cleanly cut.
Afterwards, if you feel that cutting the chord has left spaces in your soul,
then visualize those spaces being filled with a healing sunlight. This process
is GOOD in that it can free you from
a relative OR lover that NO longer serves a meaningful purpose.
Though you are doing this process it is IMPORTANT
to note that you are NOT severing the
relationship, you are severing the chords that are NO longer serving you both. In any case, cutting a relationship
cord should always be viewed as a positive and nurturing act. By cutting the
cords that no longer need to be there, you are setting yourself and others free
from the ties that bind.

Saturday, October 18, 2008

¡GET OUT OF YOUR OWN WAY!






When
you find yourself facing obstacles that appear to be blocking you from your
goals, it is important to try not to get discouraged. It can be easy to feel STUCK or that LIFE is creating circumstances preventing you from getting what you
want. And while it is easy to look at everyone and everything outside of
ourselves for the problem, perhaps even wanting to "get rid" of the
person, object, or circumstance we may feel is blocking us, sometimes the best
course of action to take may be to look inside ourselves first. It is amazing
how often we can get in our own way without even being aware that we are doing
so. Even though we truly want to succeed, there are many reasons why we may
sometimes block our own efforts. It may be that we are afraid to succeed, so we
subconsciously create circumstances to keep ourselves stuck. Or it may even be
that we are afraid that we will succeed, so we block ourselves by making the
achievement of our goals more difficult than they really are. We may even
approach our goals in a way that keeps creating the same unsuccessful results. If
you believe that you've been standing in your own way, you may want to take a
piece of paper and record how you've done so. Write down the choices you've
made that have hindered your efforts and the fears that may have prompted you
to make these decisions.  Take note of any thoughts and feelings that
arise. It is important to be gentle and compassionate during this process. Try
not to blame yourself for getting in your own way. Remember the choices we make
always are there to serve us, until it is time to let them go. When you are
finished, throw the paper away while setting an intention that you are getting
rid of any obstacles you've created to block yourself. You can then let
yourself start again with a clean slate. Doubts and fears are going to be
natural, but with this new awareness, you should be able to prevent yourself
from subconsciously thwarting yourself. Besides, now that you've decided to get
out of your own way, the part of you that has always wanted to succeed can now
do so.

YOU OUGHTA KNOW


YOU OUGHTA KNOW is a Grammy-winning song written by Alanis Morissette and Glen Ballard, and produced by Ballard for Morissette's third album Jagged Little Pill (1995). The song, the lyrics of which describe Morissette's fouled relationship with an unnamed lover (later identified as David Coulier aka the dude from Full House) introduced her harsh, angst-ridden lyrics to the public. I chose this video NOT only because I LOVE this woman to death but for the fact that she is having a concert in my country and I cannot afford to go. Nonetheless, I am sure she will rock the house. I LOVE this song SO much and the album is DEFINITELY one of my top 10 favorite. This video is SO Freudian and it is PERFECT in that it showed that there is NOTHING like a woman scorned. This timeless classic will live on forever…

Friday, October 17, 2008

¿IS THE GAY "PERCEPTION" REAL?





There are a
number of GAY men who are doing
everyday things going everywhere, but the world act as if they don’t
exist. We live in a world where EVERYONE
is DIFFERENT, yet if a GAY man is NOT an activist OR openly gay he is thought of as an
anomaly OR a glitch in the PERCEIVED GAY FORMULA. BUT IS THIS THE
CASE?
Not every GAY man has to
let the world know that he is into men NOR
does he have to hide who he is. I get that in order for us to get some sort of
understanding about who OR what the
gay man is, there has to be an idea of who he is. Hence the problem because the
“PERCEPTION” is that ALL gay men are effeminate AND unmanly. But is it rational OR fair to put restrictions on a GAY man’s manhood because society feels
that there are certain lines men shouldn’t cross? How can one put the notion
out there that is OKAY to be GAY as long your manhood isn’t in
question? Something like this affects the GAY
man’s ability to express himself freely without fear of being referred to in
derogatory terms. And why shouldn’t he? An effeminate man is considered as
someone that lacks courage AND
strength which are the things that is said that a man needs. So I ask again, IS THE GAY PERCEPTION REAL? I SAY NO! I
say this because there are MANY GAY men hiding in plain sight that does
fit perceived mold. I guess that is all fine AND dandy because would a masculine “PERCEPTION” have a POSITIVE
impact on the gay community? I say that masculinity AND femininity are real they're just shorthand for features we pick
out with language. Hence NO one's
sexual orientation OR identification
is a stake. The only thing @ stake is some “IDEALIZATION”
about characteristics picked out by language which are NOTHING more than linguistic markers. So how about some clarity? A
man is a man NO matter how what one
may see OR feel he is about. The “PERCEPTION” is how some GAY men exaggerate a performance of one
gender and apply it to the other. The thing is that this atypical feature
shouldn’t be seen as something typical because it is NO way shape OR form
close to what being GAY is all about.
I mean what significance can come from a man expressing himself in a typical
feminine fashion? There is NOTHING
typical about being gay. We're homosexuals, because that word says that we are attracted
to the same sex. So in trying to DISSOCIATE
sexual identity from gender identity is a tricky and an unfruitful task. They
both depend on each other and are parallel…SO
WHEN IT COMES TO THE GAY “PERCEPTION” IT
IS IMPORTANT FOR US NOT BE NAÏVE ABOUT THE CONSEQUENCES OF THE LABELS THAT IS
APPLIED TO HOMOSEXUALS. MOREOVER, WE DO OURSELVES HARM BY TRYING TO IGNORE THE
IMPLICATIONS OF THIS & DOING THIS IS LIKE TRYING TO IGNORE GRAVITY. THE “PERCEPTION”
IS WAY OFF THE MARK BECAUSE GAY MEN & WOMEN ARE REAL PEOPLE WITH REAL, DEEP
& ABIDING EMOTIONS ROOTED IN SHAME N’ FEAR ALL BECAUSE OF THE NOTIONS WHAT
THEY THINK WE ARE. I DON’T KNOW HOW SOCIETY EXPECTS TO UNDERSTAND US IF THEY
DON’T UNDERSTAND THEMSELVES…MAKES ONE WONDER IF THE “STRAIGHT” PERCEPTION IS
REAL BECAUSE THEY WORK SO HARD TO ENSURE THAT WE DON’T GO AROUND MASQUERADING
LIKE THEM…

Wednesday, October 15, 2008

¿WHY IS GAY A DIRTY WORD?





There is a real need for us as a GAY community to RE-ESTABLISH ourselves, RE-ESTABLISH
the basis for who and what we are as a humans as well as RE-ESTABLISH where we are going. In
these times we have to recognize that we stand on the shoulders of those who
have walked this road before. They had clarity about who and what they were
before epidemic of HIV/AIDS destroyed
the community; and it is up to us to pick up the mantle and forged ahead. Do
you remember that childhood rhyme sticks and stones may break my bones but
words can never hurt me? Well that is true, only it is the TOTAL opposite for us. We have been wrongly socialized to think
that words could not hurt and therefore have not paid enough attention to words
and symbols and have left us defenseless to the continuing emotional assault on
our psyche and spirit that is unleashed by the power of the word GAY. We have to decode our homophobic environment
and untangle the deep web of lies AND
untruths that has kept down for SO
long. By manipulating AND directing
the mental perception through word redefinition, the masses benefited from demonizing
AND scorning the lives of SO many GAY people. For as long as I can remember, they have sought to
create an ever expanding HETERO reality
OR world. They were only able to
accomplish this through giving birth to FEAR
that is considered GOD’S LAW. Nonetheless,
I say we can RECLAIM the TRUE beauty AND meaning of being GAY.
The nature of homosexuality
and the people who are GAY are vast.
Homosexuality is what links us as ONE humanity.
It also connects us to the ONE universal
consciousness that many call God. I read somewhere that communications between unequal people in society can NEVER be equal AND the language interaction between GAY AND STRAIGHT folks within the existing of the sexual order is essentially
unequal. Society interacts with us from a functionally superior position AND we
respond to them from a socially inferior position. Even as I write this society
is telling GAY people what to do in ALL
aspect of their lives. So by redefining the meaning of GAY AND STRAIGHT we can CHANGE
the way things are. Why we continue to engage in senseless word games around
whether we should be calling ourselves GAY,
HOMOSEXUALS, PANSEXUAL, TRI-SEXUAL
or the MANY other names in the sexuality handbook defies time AND circumstance given our power as human
beings. It was precisely because of this; society REDEFINED key terms such as GAY
so that we would NOT realize the
power of HOMOSEXUALITY. Rather than
continue to define ourselves according to misrepresentations and falsifications
within society, we should go back to the source of our own humanity and see
what we called ourselves before opinions AND
fear took over this planet. As GAY
people we should ALWAYS seek to
aspire to the TRUTH when it comes to
matters as critical
to the future and survival of the community…THE WORD GAY REPRESENTS OUR RIGHT TO SHARE
IN THE BOUNTY & BEAUTY OF A WORLD THAT IS SO VAST & DIFFERENT. THE FACT
THAT THIS WORD IS SEEN AS SOMETHING BAD SHOWS THAT THE WORLD IS AN UNSTABLE
PLACE FOR US & THAT NEEDS TO CHANGE. IN ORDER TO UNDERSTAND WHY SO MANY OF
US ARE STRUGGLING FOR SURVIVAL, WE NEED TO LOOK DEEP WITHIN OURSELVES &
FIND THE ANSWERS. WHILST MOST OF US GET INTO EMPTY DEBATES ABOUT OUR SEXUALITY
WE MUST REALIZE THAT NO CAN RIDE OUR BACKS UNLESS IT IS BENT & THIS IS SUCH
A SIMPLE PROFOUND TRUTH…IF ONLY WE COULD GRASP THAT WE ARE NOT CURSED BECAUSE
WE GAY, THEY CURSE US WE HAVE SOMETHING SPECIAL, REAL & HONEST INSIDE OF
US…

FINDING YOUR EQUAL...





Sometimes we
want LOVE so bad that we will do
just anything to get OR keep it.
From what I know about relationships, most of us either stay with someone in
the HOPES that he/she will learn to LOVE us OR we run from here to there LOOKING
for something to stick. And in the interim we are here fighting what seems to insurmountable
odds that just get the better of us. ARE
WE DOOMED TO FAIL BECAUSE THIS IS JUST THE WAY LOVE N’ LIFE GOES OR COULD IT BE
SOMETHING ELSE?
I say that it all of these and SO much more. However, I think that the main thing we are NOT looking @ is the fact that we are NOT SEEKING persons that are OUR
equal. It is my PERSONAL belief that
it is VITALLY important to date
someone who's in your league and I don't mean that in a snobbish way. I say
this because until recently, my relationships were very one-sided. And I like
to think of myself as educated, a risk taker, very funny and a person who
always challenges himself, along with being a creative spirit. But I found
myself dating men I had nothing in common with. THANK GOD MOST OF THEM NEVER MADE IT TO THAT PLACE…Nonetheless, I
would be in these relationships where we were COMPLETE opposites when it came to education, taste in movies and
music, and careers and though they MOSTLY
had NO creative aspirations, they didn’t
have ANY aspirations @ all. Often, we couldn't even hold a conversation that
lasted over 5 minutes. However they were not lacking in some attributes that I
found attractive like being romantic, kind, and passionate but still it wasn't
enough to build into anything permanent. After years of this routine, I had to
stop and process. WAS IT ME? WHAT AM I
DOING WRONG? WHEN AM I GOING TO GET WHAT I DESERVE? HOW IS THAT I KEEP
ATTRACTING MEN THAT I HAVE NOTHING IN COMMON WITH?
I had no problems with my
friends. We had a lot in common, sometimes talking for hours at a time. The
answer came to me…in order for me to find happiness in my relationships; I
needed to find the medium. Hence I had to STOP
dating who could NEVER measure
up and date men that had the qualities that I value in life. I found that I
need to be challenged in order for me grow and the men that I’ve met didn’t
give the RIGHT kind of challenge
that I needed. Hence dating someone who is not your equal should never be an
option. If you're not careful, you can end up with someone who is not OR will never be in the same place you
are. SO NEVER SETTLE FOR LESS THAN YOUR
EQUAL…WHILE THIS MAY BE SEEN AS CONCEITED OR ARROGANT, CHOOSING TO FIND YOUR
EQUAL IS THE MOST POWERFUL ACT OF LOVE THERE IS…

Tuesday, October 14, 2008

21 DUMB REASONS TO CHEAT ON HIM...





  1. Because
    you are GAY.

  2. All
    your friends have done it and you don't want to be left out.

  3. It's
    just sex AND you want to live a little.

  4. Your
    boyfriend thinks he might be bisexual.
     

  5. You
    have a sex addiction. If that's not the case, it's still a good excuse to use
    should you ever get caught.
     

  6. You
    can't remember the last time you had GREATsex with him.
     

  7. Wrong
    number - but the voice on the other end of the line sounds so nice...You meet
    up for a quickie.
     

  8. The
    man is just so gorgeous - it would be a crime not to...
     

  9. You
    are on a diet and more sex you can get will burn the calories.
     

  10. Revenge
    if he cheated on you first.
     

  11. Every
    man should have some secrets.
     

  12. You
    are in a long-distance relationship and what he doesn’t won’t hurt him.
     

  13. You're
    stressed about your job, your friends are acting up and he won't stop nagging.
     

  14. You
    want to punish your partner. That's all.
     

  15. The other man has a nice place AND money to spear…and
    you've always wanted to get dirty with the finer things in life.
     

  16. You
    don’t LOVE him but don’t want to leave
    him.
     

  17. You're
    in the mood for an adventure.
     

  18. You're
    on a solo business trip and feeling lonely.
     

  19. You're
    nearing a mid-life OR quarter-life crisis.
     

  20. His
    sex drive is on cruise control.
     

  21. His
    dick is TOO small and you need so much
    more…

Monday, October 13, 2008

¿BLAME KATY PERRY?



























 



The other day there was something
on the news that caught my attention; there was this report about girls that
are barely in their teens exploring their sexuality. Now I thought this was
interesting
ESPECIALLY since I learn about a new term in the sexuality dictionary called HETEROFLEXIABLE. This simply means that a STRAIGHT individual who is
has/or is not opposed to having sexual relations with the same sex. This type
of sexual behavior is
PREDOMINANTLY found in straight females who enjoy making out with other females. BUT IS THIS REALLY NEW…MORE
IMPORTANTLY WHO IS THE BLAME?
It is believed that the
female’s sexual behavior is more influenced by cultural, situational
AND even
educational factors. So given that today there is more visibility of same-sex
behavior, its likely there is an increase in young women experimenting with
same sex behavior and talking openly
about their experiments. It has certainly always been true that teen girls are
quick to pick up on the latest fads. Yet it seems that
NO one
give one ounce of concern about young girls today following Miley Cyrus as long
as she doesn’t sing about sexuality which is a
NORMAL thing @
that stage of anyone’s life. I applauded Katy for singing this song; moreover
I
LOVE the fact that it is a HUGE hit. This shows us that there is
NOTHING unhealthy about a female exploring HER femininity. ISN’T IT INTERESTING HOW ANY
OTHER LABEL OTHER THAN HETEROSEXUAL DISTRESSES THE MASSES?
Labels are such a BIG thing in our culture and before a child is born, everyone wants to know
if it's going to be a boy or girl
ASSUMING that their sexuality
will be what the world says it should. But life works in a way that what we
think should happen doesn’t always go according to that ideology. So the
CONSTANT worrying about a person’s sexual orientation is an exercise in futility.
Monitoring
OR noticing signs of GAYNESS should just be seen as a NORMAL part of
finding out about the sexual-self. Puberty is already a time of turbulence. Traditionally,
we've tried to get a handle on human sexuality by trying to fit everything into
just a few simple categories, but it will
NEVER be that simple. Katy
Perry’s song just shows us that we
NEED to rediscover the TRUE human
development.
I GET
THAT THIS IS SCARY, BECAUSE MOST PEOPLE THINK OF THEIR KIDS AS HETEROSEXUAL;
& ANY DIVERGENCE IS DAUNTING, EVEN FOR THE MOST LIBERAL OF US. BUT MORE
& MORE WE ARE GOING TO HAVE TO DEAL WITH THIS, BECAUSE THE VARIOUS TYPE OF
SEXUALITY IS WAY TOO IMPORTANT TO BE CAST ASIDE & OVER LOOKED BY THE HETERO
WORLD.

Sunday, October 12, 2008

HAPPY EARTH~DAY HERATIO


It is said that GRACE EXISTS INSIDE OF ALL OF US & AROUND US. It is MERELY our inner beauty that radiates outward, touching everyone we meet; and that is how I see you my friend. You are that unseen hand that comes from the divine, rising up what I need most. When I am lost OR looking for that EXTRA boost of confidence I can ALWAYS count on you to be there for me. You are that rain bringing relief to drought-ridden farm in the lives of so many. You represent the LOVE that resides between two people, that gift OR check that comes unexpectedly in the mail…You are that thriving element in a world of dualities AND challenges that I admire. The way you approach the hurdles of life says a lot about the man you are. I LOVE that you have NO problem defining who OR what you are in this world; and it is because of this I SINCERELY WISH YOU A HAPPY EARTH~DAY! FOR I KNOW THAT THE WORLD IS BETTER PLACE BECAUSE OF WHO YOU ARE…

Friday, October 10, 2008

HAPPY EARTH~DAY WAYNE









I
want to start off by wishing you a HAPPY
EARTH~DAY!
This is your day and I hope you enjoy it to the fullest. I
sincerely hope that you use this day to reflect on the year that passed
AND the one that has started…LORD KNOWS I HAVE! I find it interesting how we find ourselves @
the cross-roads of time and the decisions that we make today will have an
effect on our tomorrow. NONETHELESS,
you and I both know that I am YOUR
friend
AND will always be and you cannot deny that. There are
times when you are called upon to be someone you are NOT and that isn’t something I am prepared to do and for that I am sorry.
You know that I will be honest with you and you know that isn’t what you want in
your life right now…To know that we are in this place where things aren’t
things says that you do NOT
understand OR know me…I will be BOLD and say I don’t think that you
care to. Nonetheless, I wish ONLY
good things for you…from the moment we met that was my intension. It is SO interesting how as we age we STILL look for others approval in order
to feel alive…human even…but what does it give us? You are @ a point in your
life when you should question why, when
AND how. This realization needs to happen for you
before you loose EVERYTHING that you
hold near and dear to you. For some odd reason getting the short end of the
stick has such a tight a hold on your psyche that it feels like the
REAL thing; but it is NOT! Hence I feel that YOU
need to heal what hurts
AND free up the negative energy that is keeping you
in the same place year after year. The longer you sit on things, the harder it
is to work through, and the more likely it is that you will be forced to
acknowledge it as it makes itself known to you in ways you can't predict.
Rather than waiting for this to happen, I hope that you can empower yourself by
identifying the pain
AND resolving to take action toward healing it. I
know that the VERY thought of this
brings up feelings of resistance, especially since your life is fine on the
surface. I know that it is HARD for
you to dig up the past and go into it unless you are being seriously
inconvenienced by the hurt. BUT WHAT
CHOICE DO YOU HAVE?
The thing is, when we are carrying the burden of our
unprocessed pain, sooner OR later,
it will inconvenience us. So it pays to be brave
AND proactive, so you can save yourself a lot of
future suffering
AND free up the energy that is tied up in keeping the
pain down. It is time to that you walk with your head up, with a smile on your
face. In order for you to get there, you need to make some decisions. Whatever
path you choose, resolve to go deep into the pain
AND set yourself free. Remember, it is never too
late in life to heal what hurts, and there is never a better time than now. So
as you read this and go about your life please remember that my thoughts are
just that MY thoughts, I only say
what I say because I see what is to come but I realize that you can’t make
someone want to do good by themselves…they have to want it…I believe that all
life is predestined and yours and mine follow that path…I believe that
sometimes you have to let someone go in order for them to come back…So take responsibility
for fulfilling your destiny…when you do you will see that you NOT only take fate into your own hands,
but also you become the hands of your own fate. Doorways inevitably open for
you to step through, and every choice you make will lead you to where you need
to be…SO whether YOU THINK I AM ON YOUR
SIDE OR NOT,
WE BOTH KNOW THAT I AM…I AM
ONE THE
MOST
REAL, HONEST
& OPEN HUMAN YOU WILL EVER MEET IN YOUR
LIFE…SO AS
YOU ENJOY YOUR DAY, PLEASE MAKE THIS THE START OF ACCEPTING & MAKING THAT
STEP TOWARDS MAKING YOURSELF WHOLE…YOU WILL BE SUCH A BETTER
MAN IF YOU
DO…

I KNOW BUT...










I know my mother loves but…


Does she LOVE me? 


Am I but a memory,


Lost in time?


Trying to remember a time line


Maybe it’s just a sign


Of a life out of sync


Strange


How I can be so derange


And rearrange


This unreal reality


For I have entered a world


Another other


A world beyond my mother


Beyond safe…


Beyond smother


A world she knows NOTHING
about


And it suits her fine


The ONLY time she cares to
peep


Is to see what she can find


The whereabouts of my heart N’
soul


Doesn’t matter…


Now my nightmare is my
reality


A reality that burns so deep inside


And all I can do is hang onto the edge


As if my life
was a crowbar wedged


In between she
and I


And I in my mind


Find


Sometimes is
better to let go


Than be in
between the mind and the heart


For I have
wasted enough time


Suspending her
suspicions


And her wishful
thinking


I am happy to be
me


Though it is sad
to see,


That my mother
doesn’t REALLY LOVE ME!




© tgk

Thursday, October 9, 2008

¿WHICH GAY IS BETTER?

















Today I am
asking that you think about which persona represents the GAY community @ its best. I know that no two people are a like and
I don’t cover everyone, but I realize that we have a problem and I feel that it
starts with how we see ourselves
AND other gay men within the community. So the
following are labels that are just off the top of my head that are commonly
used within the gay community. These are NOT
official labels; they just represent what is familiar and what I hear from
other gay men within the gay community… SO
WHICH GAY DO YOU THINK IS BETTER?






 THE SUGAR DADDY







THE BREEDER






THE MACHO GAY






THE AVERAGE GAY






THE DRAG QUEEN






THE PRETTY BOY






 THE STRAIGHT GAY












Tuesday, October 7, 2008

IN HARM'S WAY...








He
came upon it


 Searching for sex
He doesn’t care about his life
As long as he gets it
So wrong of him
Why belonged with meaningless sex?
Sex must be enjoy with someone he care
Trust his loving heart
He lusted after other men
It gets him all sorts of problems
Now he is HIV positive
Things has changed but NOT for the
better
He’s waiting for his salvation


The
bait is a nice thick dick


Said
he didn’t do UNSAFE sex
He was done taking chances of re-infection
Now he dances with dangerous sex
I hope he isn’t that stupid
If not, welcome to the same path












That
SO many took…










This
blog entry is about a friend of mine who is HIV+; and he represents what I consider to be THE problem with this disease. It seems that he and SO many other gay men out there has
this thing that makes them APATHETIC
about HIV. He is the THERE’S NOTHING
SWEETER
THAN BEING F&CKED BY A BREEDER…ESPECIALLY WHEN HE ASKS kind of gay man. YOU KNOW THE KIND OF MAN THAT HAD SO MUCH THAT HE CANNOT REMEMBER WHO IT WAS WITH UNTIL HE
SEES THEM ON THE STREETS SOMEWHERE? THAT’S HIM!
Now I am all supportive of him and
what he is going through but he is now doing something that I consider to be
wrong. Apparently he is messing around this guy from an old job of his and I am
SURE he did NOT tell him about his status. I’ve never met him NOR do I want to, however I have thought about calling him up and
just tell him to ask my friend about his HIV
status and tell him that he should get tested. I know if I did that I would
pretty much be signing his death warrant, but isn’t he doing the same to him? I
get that HIV isn’t as bad as it was
25 years ago and it is treated
like a
long-term illness now, but I don’t feel that he has the right to bring
something like this to someone without their knowledge. I sometimes think that
I am living in this parallel universe OR that I am in some sort of hidden
camera show where I am being played. YES,
THAT’S IT…RIGHT?
I mean how could he spread his legs for someone and NOT think that HIV is an issue? I guess something is WRONG with me because I can’t be apart of this lifestyle and NOT say OR do something. I mean HIV/AIDS
is over 25 years old and I feel that we should be asking ourselves what we can
do to help prevent the further spread of this disease instead of actually
spreading it. HIV like any other
social disease carries with it certain stigma. This stigma comes from fear,
ignorance about the disease, other people's views (mostly biased),
AND religious damnation…& MEN SUCH AS HIM DON’T MAKE IT ANY BETTER! I FEEL THAT IT IS TIME
THAT PERSONS TAKE RESPONSIBILITY FOR THEIR STATUS & NOT BRING OTHERS IN ON THIS
DISEASE…I CAN’T HELP BUT WONDER IF I AM JUST AS BAD AS HE IS BECAUSE I KNOW WHAT
IS GOING ON WITH HIM, YET I DO NOTHING TO  WARN THE CURRENT D!CK THAT HE
HAS IN HIS BED?

Monday, October 6, 2008

THE "REAL" GAY MARRIAGE...


In this day and age, divorce rates are high and people are puzzled as to how the traditional marriages of yesteryear can ever survive today's fast paced lifestyle. Many couples marry because they are IN LOVE. They have overwhelming attraction to one another and because they feel romantic love towards one another, they feel that they should commit their lives to each other. I have been thinking about the GAY men that marry women to either hide OR cure their homosexuality. I TOTALLY understand the reason they do it, but I can’t’ say that I agree with it. We hear talk about GAY MARRIAGE in the press and everywhere else, but NO one is talking about the REAL gay marriage? Times have certainly changed. Unfortunately our spiritual understanding of romantic unions and relationships has been slow to follow. Many people still have certain expectations of each other in this society so MERGERS like this take place VERY often. BUT ISN’T IT FUNNY THOUGH, A GAY CAN BE FORGIVEN BECAUSE HE TOOK A BRIDE & BECAME A REFORM HOMOSEXUAL? If only it were THAT easy…CLOSE…but WE need to take a closer look @ this phenomenon because a gay man merely taking some vows in front of God and some invited guest won’t magically transform him into a hetero. Relationships are difficult on their own so can you imagine what it’ll be like when a relationship of this sort tries to make from day to the next? Relationships are constantly challenging; constantly calling us to create, express AND experience an elevated aspect of ourselves. So after the happy couple crosses the threshold AND settles down REALITY hits home and it won’t be pretty. It is a KNOWN fact that when human relationships fail, they fail because they were entered into for the wrong reason. And NOTHING proves this more than a gay AND straight union. They both enter into the union with an eye toward what they can get out of the other…Talk about romance…ISN’T IT SWEET TO HAVE THEM SAY THAT THEY WERE NOTHING UNTIL THEY MET EACH OTHER? I guess it makes PERFECT sense since the purpose of relationship is NOT to have another who might complete you; but to have another with whom you might share your completeness. So given this predicament what do you think will happen when the GAY man gets that itch that his wife can’t scratch? After all he decided to become some woman’s husband so he could NOT follow his individual path to a life of reality. Pity that the bonds of marriage are seen as prohibitive rather than engaging in an active spiritual partnership full of growth and cooperation…ALL THE SAME I SUPPOSE…IT SADDENS ME TO THINK THAT OUR SOULS CAME TO OUR BODIES FOR THE PURPOSE OF EVOLUTION & SOME OF WE GAY MEN CAN’T GET IT TOGETHER. WE ALL ARE EVOLVING & BECOMING…BUT WHEN WE USE SOMETHING SO SACRED IN THIS MANNER, WE DON’T DO OUR SEXUALITY AN INJUSTICE. SO I SAY TO THE GAY MEN THAT TAKES THIS PATH…DON’T! IT IS MORE IMPORTANT TO BE TRUE TO YOURSELF RATHER THAN MESSING UP SOME WOMAN’S LIFE. MARRIAGE IS TOO IMPORTANT TO BE TREATED IN SUCH A MANNER. HOW CAN TOGETHERNESS BE ACHIEVED IF THE WINDS OF HEAVEN CAN’T DANCE BETWEEN YOU? SPIRITUAL PARTNERS SHOULD HONOR & LOVE EACH OTHER, FILL EACH OTHER’S CUP, GIVE ONE ANOTHER BREAD…BUT NOT EAT FROM THE SAME LOAF…ALL I KNOW IS THAT I CAN’T WAIT UNTIL I SAY I DO TO MAN IN MY LIFE…I CAN ONLY THANK GOD THAT WE MAN UP & ACCEPT WHO WE ARE & NOT TRY TO HIDE BEHIND SOME FARCE OF A MARRIAGE…

TOP 10 SIGNS OF A DL MAN...







  1. HE LIKES TO "PRETEND" TO DANCE LIKE A WOMAN…While a 50 Cent or Jay Z song is on, they on the wall looking mad. But, as soon as Beyonce comes on, he is all over the dance shaking his ass and doing it better than you girl. Yeah, you think he’s playing and trying to make you laugh. But he’s really not. Besides ladies, you don’t want a man, who can dance better to a Beyonce song right?

  2. HE'S ALWAYS WITH HIS BEST FRIEND…They are always together like two females. Always working out together…always on the phone together. And, you as the girlfriend wonder why he spends more time with his best friend than with you. Could that mean that you are his cover up; and as long as he is with you, no one will think that he is gay?

  3. HE PICKS AN ARGUMENT WITH YOU FOR NO REASON…And, then leaves the house for hours. He does this so he has time for the both of you and his down low lover. So be cautious, if your man is always picking arguments with you and leaves the house for hours. If he’s not hiding that he’s gay, he’s hiding something. And, that’s another story, another time, and another place…

  4. LOOK @ HIS WALK…Does your dude walks too, too hard? So hard that it's noticeable? I mean y'all don't want your man to walk all gay and stuff. So him putting on this EXTRA manliness is meant to both in impress AND throw you off his scent. If a man walks hard AND tough he wont’ be seen as gay. But, don’t be fooled, that walk is just as noticeable as my Naomi walk. He can fool the people, but you can’t fool those who the score. We know what he is covering up with that walk. The only difference between us is that we have the out of the closet normal walk and he has the I am in the closet on the DL walk…

  5. HE'S EXTREMELY SECRETIVE…This sign is for all you parents out there. If you have a son who sneaks out the house a lot; and you rarely know his whereabouts most of the time…SOMETHING IS GOING ON! Especially if mostly males call the house for him and he rarely talk about girls. Sorry but he is a GAY. Basically, if you know nothing about his son lifestyle, it’s because he doesn’t want you to know. He doesn’t want you to know that he is gay, that’s why everything with him is a big secret. Most of this secret lifestyle starts to happen around the age of 15. By then most boys should know if they like girls or boys or both…

  6. HE ALWAYS TALKS ABOUT HOW CHICKS WANT TO GET @ HIM…But, in reality you never see him with any females. More than likely he is saying that to make you think he’s straight and to throw you off. But in reality, those females he talks about are really men…

  7. HE HITS & BEATS ON WOMEN…I’m sorry, a real man does not hit a woman. But, a down low man will. Now, wait a minute some women do like getting a little roughed up, choked up, a little weave pulling during sex. But that’s another story child. I’m talking about those Ike and Tina Turner beatings. He's just trying to prove to the world that he is a heterosexual man. Knowing deep inside he is a homosexual. So if your man is beating on you like that, wake up, before it’s too late!

  8. HE'S ALWAYS CALLING SOMEBODY ELSE GAY…A man that is constantly saying things about like, HE LOOKS GAY, HE ACTS GAY; HE DRESSES GAY & HE WALKS GAY…more than like is GAY. Basically he is just hope AND praying that he is so he could have him all to himself (especially if he is in female company). So it would be in his best interest if he truly wants to remain on the DL he needs to STOP calling out other gay men.

  9. HE WANTS TO MAKE LOVE FROM BEHIND…If your man always want to have anal every time your have sex, and gets mad when you don’t want to…that is a sign. Because if your man like poking you in the ass, more than likely any ass will do. What makes you think he wouldn’t mind poking another man? So watch out for those men that likes to be fingered OR have their salads toss. And this should be a NO brainer…but, if your man likes for you to strap on a dildo and let him have it…I could be wrong, but I highly doubt it…

  10. HE'S HOMOPHOBIC…Is your man always angry with gay people for no reason. Does he always have something negative to say about them? When he comes across a gay man, does he make a CHI CHI man comment OR make some homophobic remark? He is CLEARLY saying that being with another man is something that interests him and he is trying to make sure you are NOT aware of that. I find this happens when he sees someone he wants to get with. But DEEP inside he wants that gay boy OR rather feel free AND happy like him. So he hates on the gay boy, because the gay boy can care less of what folks has to say about him and he’s going to be himself. A real man will see a gay boy and say nothing. It’s always them dam DL ones who always have something to say. So to the REAL gay men who meet these type of homosexuals I say SMILE every time you come upon one TRUST ME, it’s the best medicine. But it is the ladies that I am worried about, they need to be cautious if they are NOT interested in dating a man that wants to be with other men.

TODAY IS SUMMER LEISURE DAY!