You about to have sex with a hot guy. A super hot guy. You are lying back on his bed thinking that he might actually be the most muscle-pumped guy you’ve ever jumped into the sack with. All is going great. And from the way he’s twerking around on top of you, he’s making it clear that he wants to get fucked.
‘Do you want me to put a condom on?’ I ask, expecting him to immediately say ‘yes.’
‘I hate condoms,’ he says firmly. ‘You are on PrEP.’
There’s a pause. He awaits my response.
‘Oh. Well, I only use condoms,’ I say.
‘Are you negative?’ he asks.
‘Yes. But I still only wear condoms. Sorry.’
He sighs and there’s the very slightest eye roll. Yes, an actual eye roll.
He doesn’t get up to get a condom and doesn’t ask you to get one. So, you end up not fucking.
The remainder of the sex is still great and – for you – satisfying, but afterwards, you still can’t get the eye-roll out of your head.
As gay men, we’ve found myself in situations before where condoms haven’t been used. It was nearly always in the heat of the moment. It was always, inevitably, followed by feelings of regret and fear.
Does situations like that these make you feel like you are… Prissy? Overly cautious? A spoilsport?