I have been with my boyfriend for 4 years. We live together, work full time jobs and are both in our twenties. We used to have sex/foreplay every day but now it’s once a week – sometimes less. He will masturbate and therefore doesn’t have an urge for intercourse with me, where as I would rather have it with him.
I have a high sex drive and really want it – if I masturbate he will get upset at me and he then holds sex off to punish me. I’ve tried to address the issue and he claims the reason is because I don’t make him work for it. In his opinion I am too eager – he would rather I let him make the move and made him chase me before he got his prize if you like. He would like me to tease him and get him desperate. I don’t know what to do… is this a sign he would rather be single where he can get the chase? What can I do to make him work for it? I’m worried if I play hard to get he might just not try since he is already satisfied from masturbating and I will be left unsatisfied and worked up!