BI-SEXUALITY...LET'S TALK

It is incredible to me how OUR culture still ignores the full spectrum of SEXUAL
ORIENTATION and lost in all of this confusion
are the BI-SEXUALS. Bi-sexuality
is an enigma unto itself and those of us that are not on both sides of the
sexual divide tend to form an opinion that causes more harm than good. 

WE are a culture
that is consumed by the notion of HETEROSEXUALITY. It is rather sad that WE are still asking ourselves if someone is GAY or STRAIGHT. How do we see a woman dating a man and
automatically assume that she is straight if we later see her on a date with a
woman? How
do we continue to ignore the spectrum of sexual orientation and the shifts that
it takes in the lives of others?

The crazy thing is that I can see why WE tend to overlook bisexuals; their existence jab holes in a lot
of conventional wisdoms when it comes to sorting society by gender AND sexual orientation. One would THINK that this would be enough to stop us from sorting OUR society by gender AND sexual orientation, but it is NOT! Many MEN and
WOMEN have fantasies about, and
sexual contact with members of both sex, yet WE cannot seem to find some way of ACCEPTING that this takes place.

The need for an individual to
establish sexual OR emotional relationships with persons of both sexes is
something that is REAL and LOGICAL. Many bisexual persons would say that they are into the
person and NOT the gender.
Yet WE try so HARD to make it seem as if it is the TOTAL opposite when it is NOT! IT IS SO OBVIOUS
THAT OUR BIGGEST PROBLEM IS LABELS! In the
search to identify OUR sexual
preference, WE too often categorize ourselves into certain boxes with labels of GAY,
STRAIGHT & BISEXUAL. From where I am
sitting to do something like that is foolish AND it shows that WE are trying to simplify something that is not
straightforward. 

SEXUALITY & SEXUAL DESIRE ARE FLUID! BEING
GAY, FOR INSTANCE DOES NOT MEAN THAT YOU CANNOT BE SEXUALLY ATTRACTED TOWARDS A
WOMAN. IN THE END, CAN ONE SAY WHAT PROVES A MAN IS GAY? WHAT MAKES A WOMAN
BISEXUAL? ALL THIS BRINGS US TO ONE FUNDAMENTAL QUESTION…IS SEXUAL ORIENTATION
A CHOICE? IF ONE THINKS ABOUT IT, THE ANSWER WOULD HAVE TO BE NO!!! THERE ISN’T
A CLEAR DIVISION BETWEEN GAY, STRAIGHT OR BISEXUALITY. IN TRUTH, THE SPECTRUM
OF SEXUALITY EXTENDS FROM COMPLETE HOMOSEXUALITY TO COMPLETE HETEROSEXUALITY.
WHERE & WHY ANYONE END UP ON THE SCALE IS ANYONE’S GUESS, BUT IT SHOULD BE
EXAMINED BEFORE LABELS & JUDGEMENT COMES INTO PLAY. HOW CAN WE FORGET WHEN
WE CAME TO THE REALIZATION OF OUR SEXUALITY? HOW CAN WE NOT REMEMBER WHEN WE
BECAME AWARE OF THE SEXUAL CHANGES IN OUR BODIES THAT FEED THE ATTRACTION BOTH
SEXUAL & EMOTIONAL TOWARDS EITHER PERSONS OF THE OPPOSITE OR SAME SEX?
SEXUALITY IS COMPLEX & FASCINATING, IT ENCOMPASSES SO MUCH MORE THAN WE
KNOW OR ACCEPT. BI-SEXUALITY PER SE DOES NOT BELONG TO ANY CATEGORIES GIVEN
THAT THEY ARE ALL OF SEXUALITY. LIKE HOMSEXUALITY SEX IN THIS SOCIETY, HAS A
LOT OF ROTTEN THINGS THAT ARE REFLECTED IN IT’S CORE. HENCE, BISEXUALITY THOUGH
VARIED & COMPLEX SHOULD NOT BE SEEN AS SOMETHING NEGATIVE, ESPECIALL BY
THOSE OF US THAT ARE HOMOSEXUAL.

10 WORST BLOWJOB MISTAKES

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¿WHAT DOES IT MEAN?

Yesterday I wondered what I wanted to write about, what would be the first entry that I post on this the first day of my 30’s. It is AMAZING how I got so many questions that swirled around in my head AND they seem NOT to be going anywhere so I thought I’d post them and HOPE that they can answer themselves instead…SO WHAT DO I DO WHEN…

1. YOU ARE TOO TIRED TO SPEND THE DAY THAT I DEEMED IMPORTANT TO ME?
2. YOU DIDN’T MAKE TIME BECAUSE YOU RAN OUT OF TIME?
3. YOU LEFT ME WITHOUT YOU WHEN ALL GAVE YOU WAS ME?
4. YOU ARE BEYOND WHAT I SEE?
5. YOU ARE NOT A FRIEND TO ME?
6. YOU PEEKED INTO THE FUTURE & THINGS ARE NOT CLEAR?
7. YOU HAVE LOOKED BACKWARDS FOR A REASON TO MAKE SENSE OF THINGS?
8. YOU CAN’T RECOGNIZE YOURSELF?
9. YOU HATE THAT I PUT YOU HERE?
10. YOU ARE OUT OF TIME?
11. YOU WHEN I FIND THAT I CAN’T GIVE A DAMN?
12. YOU ARE THE PRISONER OF THE PAST?
13. YOU SEE THAT WE GOING IN OPPOSITES DIRECTION?
14. YOU ARE BECOMING OBSOLETE?
15. YOU THINK IT IS QUITE UNDERSTANDABLE TO TREAT ME THIS WAY?
16. YOU CANT FIND ANY COMFORT FOR YOURSELF?
17. YOU QUESTION THE QUESTIONS THAT I ASK YOU?
18. YOU FEEL THAT THINGS ARE OK & THERE IS NO NEED FOR THESE QUESTIONS?
19. YOU GO IN RESCUE RECOVERY MODE & GET STUCK?
20. YOU CAN’T FIGHT ANOTHER DAY?
21. YOU DON’T HAVE ANOTHER WAY?
22. YOU HAVE TAKEN A FALL?
23. YOU DON’T KNOW?
24. YOU DON’T CARE?
25. YOU MAKE ME QUESTION YOU?
26. YOU SEE WHAT YOU ARE DOING & DO NOTHING?
27. YOU SAY YOU ARE GRATEFUL FOR HAVING ME BUT DON’T SHOW IT?
28. YOU SEE MY POINT BUT PRETEND YOU DON’T?
29. YOU USE YOURSELF AS AN EXCUSE FOR WHO YOU ARE?
30. YOU REALIZE THAT I WON’T HOLD YOU AGAINST YOU?
    

I HOPE THAT YOU GET IT AS TIME MARCHES ON, BUT UNTIL THEN…

HAPPY EARTH~DAY TO ME!!!

I am the ENIGMA sent here to tease and tantalize you.

I stand before you eager to take you in.

You cannot tear your eyes away from me.

I am the MAN that you were waiting for

I am the ONE you crave

Aren’t you glad I came?

They say that the FLOW of the universe moves through everything. It is in the rocks that form, get pounded into dust, and are blown away. It is in the blossoming of a flower born from a seed planted in the spring. The growth cycle that every human being goes through is part of this natural flow and I want to ensure that as of today that I am flowing with the universe as my tides turn. I am like a sailor using the wind, trusting that the universe is taking them exactly where they need to be. I know that I am connected to a force that is GREATER than I am. I want to be feel like I did 30 years ago when I was a child before life took over me and just allow myself to be naturally swept up in the flow & CELEBRATE A NEW DECADE @ HAND...

TIMES OF YORE (A DECADE PAST)

As I sit on the cusp of my twenties and BOLDLY invite my thirties to take me on, I try to take myself back to the day before I was born; I wonder what it was like to be a soul without a body. This life has been a MYSTERY from birth AND will continue to be. I just THANK God that he brought me thus far AND that I get to carry on. I got another decade to occupy this space on this planet with a fullness that is beyond my wildest dreams. I have come to realize that I better enjoy my time because soon enough I will be back where I started…just a twinkle in God’s eye. As time marches on, I am more AND more in alignment with my purpose and NO longer analyzing my path. FOR I AM THE MAN THAT I WAS WAITING FOR…I FOUND THAT THE PAST DECADE HAS SHOWN ME THAT I AM ALL THAT I COULD EVER NEED. IT IS NOT ABOUT LOOKS OR MATERIAL THINGS; IT IS ABOUT BEING DOWN-TO-EARTH & CARING. IT IS ABOUT LOVING MANKIND & BEING TRUE TO MYSELF. IT IS ABOUT GIVING A BIG HUG TO MY 20’S & SAYING HELLO TO MY NEW BEGINNING IN MY 30’S…

He is the beginning, so do not worry about the end.

He is the creator, so do not wonder who will destroy.

He has forgiven me, so I have forgiven myself.

He is my healer, so I do not speak of sickness.

He makes life possible, so why shouldn’t I live?

He protects me, so I do not have fear.

He will supply all my needs, so I can wait.

He is my strength and my salvation, so I do not feel weak.

He is the right way, so I will not go the wrong way.

He is the light, so I will forget the dark.

He allows me to walk, so I do not worry about the flesh.

He has a plan for me, so I will accept it.

He promises me today, so I will take it…

…AND ENJOY THIS THE LAST DAY OF MY 20’S

THE ONE YEAR MARK

It has long been said that the spring season has long been used as a metaphor for unpredictability, with its transitional energy shifting from cold one day to hot the next. Wind and rain are hallmarks of spring, and they leave us feeling shaken up and unsettled as they sweep away the debris of past seasons, clearing the way for new growth. TODAY MARKS THE FIRST ANNIVERSARY OF THE FREE NATIONAL MOVEMENT SINCE TAKING OFFICE YET AGAIN. One year ago today, on the evening of May 2, 2007, screams and shouts of victory pierced the evening air. It was evident that something significant had happened. After thousands of election ballots were counted throughout The Bahamas and the pre-election hype all came to an end, one thing was certain: the May 2007 general election had been viewed as the most unpredictable in the history of The Bahamas. The RED SEA had risen and the opposition Free National Movement was able to wrest power from the governing Progressive Liberal Party, sealing its third victory within a 15-year period. For the next 4 years the surprising spring winds that came out of nowhere, throwing the country into chaos will be no more. Like the rain-cum-hail storms that move in fast and then pass suddenly to make way for a calm, warm afternoon, the Bahamas has shifted back to being a progressive nation. Naturally this past year was a challenging time for all involved, as the former Government did NOT want to let go of their power and open up to the new thing that was born. HOWEVER, THE WILL OF THE PEOPLE MUST PREVAIL & NOTHING MUST STAND IN IT'S WAY. Now as my Government pushes their TRUST AGENDA, I TRUST all will be well in this land. I TRUST that those that are naysayers will acknowledge what a better place the Bahamas is in the privacy of their hearts. WE owe it to ourselves to have a Government that is FOR THE PEOPLE BY THE PEOPLE. The FNM showed they are living up to their mandate AND that WE could rest assured that during the next few years and beyond, they will live up to their promises.

HAPPY BLOG-A-VER-SARY!

I have been given the task of GUARDING the gate AND imparting knowledge to those that know it but can’t live it for some reason. Thus blogging is MY instrument, MY canvas; this entity is MY brush, the photos are MY melody and the words are MY paintings. This is NOT just about words; this is my art…this is what I wanted to be AND ever will be. For the longest time, I thought I was put on this earth to become a doctor and heal people. Now I get to do that EVERY single day with this blog. This blog is built on a foundation of TRUTH mixed with a RAW passion for humanity. Thus the creative AND abstract view of the world with that I have can be described as REAL WITH A TWIST. Every single day I am seek new ways to encourage AND help humanity to come to a DEEPER understanding of themselves, especially the GAY MAN. I use life's subtleties to capture what is around us everyday as I am INSPIRED by the people AND the things that I encounter. Hence what I do here is about YOU, for YOU and by YOU. For YOU are my craft and I understand WE are all put here for a reason AND this is my purpose. So as I mark this occasion I would like to simply thank those who have allowed me to SERVE AND BLESS them with my THIRD eye.

As I sit and reflect on the things that has touched me for past two years, the first thing that comes to mind is GRATEFULNESS! I am grateful because I have been given the opportunity to articulate who I am and this blog has empowered my life AND showed me that I have a purpose, something GREATER than me. When I posted my first entry I was DETERMINED, DETERMINED to take US to the next level. I like so MANY of us spent so much time feeling stuck with thoughts AND feels that weren’t being expressed. I spent a lot of time saying YES when I wanted to SCREAM out NO! It was like I could move mountains with my passion but could never express it with my own song. THAT WAS THEN & THIS IS NOW! I can sit write this entry in CELEBRATION because of who AND what WE are as people…I can sit N’ write this entry because of passion N’ understanding for ALL life…I can sit N’ write this entry because of what God makes possible for me…IT IS BECAUSE HE I CAN…

So I encourage you to be devoted to one another in LOVE and HONOR each other ABOVE ourselves. Let’s not let us forget OUR SPIRIT-NATURE and I hope that you remember this notion as you navigate here. WATCH ME as I walk a mile in your shoes AND empathize with you and feel your pain. For you and I are apart of the PERFECTION that was created by GOD. WE inherited the DNA of God and HE put up a curtain, created IMPERFECTION so that we could create perfection again. AND I seek to be that curtain so YOU can attain this goal. I AM OF THE OPINION THAT OUR IMPERFECT WAS CREATED SO WOULD CREATE PERFECTION, INSTEAD OF HAVING IT GIVEN TO US. Think of it as a puzzle with the pieces separated so we could put it back together. I AM ALL FOR BRIDGING THE CHAOS IN OUR LIVES, THE DISTANCE WE FEEL WITH EACH OTHER & OURSELVES. ALWAYS REMEMBER…Happiness given to us doesn't feel like happiness. Happiness that we create…that feels like happiness! SO LET US CREATE OUR CERTAINTY & LOVE FOR OURSELVES? WHEN YOU GET LOST, REMEMBER THAT THIS LIGHT IS HERE TO SHOW YOU THE WAY…