THE SEXUALITY THING

Human SEXUALITY is
how WE experience AND express ourselves as
SEXUAL BEINGS. SEXUALITY as a whole encompasses a broad
range of behaviors AND processes that are heavily based on SOCIETAL thought AND
opinion. Moreover, this rule of thumb has become the STATUS QUO, which
ultimately FORCES those that are alike SEXUALLY in
the same group. I FIND THIS TO BE CRAZY THAT SEXUALITY HAS TO BE SEEN
AS SOMETHING LEFT OF THE MIDDLE WHEN IT STRAYS FROM THE MALE N’ FEMALE
COMBINATION. SEXUALITY in itself does not AND cannot
formulate itself to one particular set of rules OR feelings.
Thus, SEXUALITY has AND should be lucid so
that it can allow the various groups that are formed under its banner to be as
one. In my opinion, the ‘H’ needs to included in the ‘GLBT’ group
so that it is not a situation where it is US against THEM. Human
sexual behavior encompasses the search for a partner or partners and the FREEDOM that
comes from it. Thus, the ‘GLBT’ group is NOT a
byproduct of some deviant behavior and should NOT be seen as
such.

GENDER
IDENTIFICATION DOES NOT & SHOULD NOT BE A FACTOR IN HUMAN SEXUALITY. HOW
CAN IT BE? Despite stereotypes
AND common misconceptions, there are no forms of sexual activity
exclusive to the ‘GLBT’ group that cannot be found in HETEROSEXUALS. Hence, why does SOCIETY torture those that are not HETEROSEXUALLY incline? SEXUALITY that
does not go the way of MALE/FEMALE copulation does NOT go
against HUMAN NATURE. It is something that is innate and much a
part of who we are and yet we accept the fact that we are seen as the odd ones.
Sex is a fundamental HUMAN impulse that will not be denied.
All attempts to control and regulate it have ultimately failed. 

MIND OVER MATTER

The power of the mind is a curious thing, because it is so powerful yet so difficult to control sometimes. We find ourselves thinking a certain way, knowing that this thought may be creating trouble for us yet we find it difficult to stop. For example, many people have the experience of getting sick at the same time every year or every time they go on a plane. They may even be aware that their beliefs influence their experiences, so continue to think they will get sick and then they do. Sometimes we need to get sick in order to process something or move something through our bodies. However, often we get sick, or feel exhausted, because we do not make the effort to galvanize the power of our minds in the service of our physical health, which is one of its most important functions. We really can use it to communicate to our bodies, yet we often regard the two as separate entities that have little to do with one another. Knowing this, we have the power to create physical health and mental health, simply by paying attention to the tapes running in our minds. Once we hear ourselves, we have the option to let that tape keep running or to make a new recording. We harness the power of the mind in our defense when we choose supportive, healing words that foster good health and high spirits. All we need to do is remember to tend the field of our mind with the attentive and loving hand of a master gardener tending her flowerbeds, culling out the weeds so that the blossoms may come to fruition.

¿WHAT'S YOUR RESOLVE?

TODAY IS THE FIRST DAY OF THE REST OF YOUR LIFE...¿WHAT'S YOUR RESOLVE?

Hardy anyone that I have talked to in 2007, friends or strangers said that they make New Years Resolutions. They tend to grumble about how they never work! Ranging from diets, to becoming debt-free, exercise and eating healthier, the reasons pour on as to why they cannot allow themselves to live on false hope. Although I say that life happens in small doses, one has to develop a starting point. I believe that life is all about ELEVATION and moving towards making ourselves better to improve the world in which we live. The reason why NEW YEAR RESOLUTIONS do NOT work is that we go through life year AFTER year in the same vain only to get the same results. Hence, if 2007 did NOT work how can 2008? In order for life to move forward AND NOT, keep us stagnant we should write down our goals AND put it someplace where it can be seen everyday. I know this seems mechanical AND trite; but life is meant to be lived in small portions of time. If one considers time, one would see that it moves second by second and NOT hour by hour. Hence, if one want to be successful at anything one has to plan the work that is needed and work the plan that is needed. Now it is fine to make New Years Resolutions, however some goals need to be set if the intent is to make this year different. HERE ARE 10 THINGS OF INTEREST THAT YOU CAN USE TO GET YOURSELF STARTED:

1. You - Take care of you first! Your mental, physical & spiritual well-being should not only be important to you, however to everyone that you touch in your lifetime!
2. Love life – Start with YOU then all else will flow.
3. Sex life – Upgrade your sex appeal (lose/gain weight, take care your skin, buy new clothes that compliment your body)
4. Procrastination – When you think about doing some that is going to benefit you, just do it.
5. Eating healthier - Eat less fried foods
6. Exercise – Walk a little more; eat a little less of fattening-food.
7. Dieting – less fast foods, friend foods, sweets, more fruits, vegetables, and water.
8. Debt free - Pay bills on time, even if you just have the minimum, you will avoid the late payment penalty. It helps your credit.
9. Save – Take one dollar a day and put it away in a container and don’t touch it until December 31, 2008, no matter if you’re broke.
10. Live – Life should be lived as if it is time spent until we get to the grave.

I HOPE THIS STARTER LIST WORKS & GET YOU ON YOUR WAY ( & KNOW WHO U R!!!) L(O)L…GOOD LUCK WITH FINDING YOUR RESOLVE…

MERRY NEW YEAR (A MOMENT OF CHOICE)

A NEW YEAR...

It’s like a new Sunrise...

of Hope,

of Prosperity,

of Happiness.

It’s like a new Beginning...

of Thoughts,

of Words,

or Actions.

It’s like a new Day...

of Energy,

of Strength,

of Ideas.

Its like a bunch of whole new things...

of Prayers,

of Friends,

and of Love.

There are times in our lives that lend themselves to starting something new. The beginning of a new year, finishing school, leaving a job, or changing homes—these all are times that turn our minds to fresh starts. Their advantage is that they bring with them the energy of that event, creating a tide of change around them that we can ride to our next shoreline. But we can choose to start anew anytime. In any moment we can decide that a bad day or a relationship that’s gotten off on the wrong foot can be started again. It is a mental shift that allows us to clean the slate and approach anything with fresh eyes, and we can make that choice at any time. Starting new is most powerful when we focus our attention to what we are choosing to create. Giving all of our attention to the unwanted aspects of our lives allows what we resist to persist. We need to remember to leave enough room in the process of new beginnings to be kind to ourselves, because it takes time to become accustomed to anything new, no matter how much we like it. There is no need to get down on ourselves if we don't reach our new goals instantly. Instead, we acknowledge the forward motion and choose to reset and start again, knowing that with each choice we learn, grow, and move forward. Making the choice to start anew has its own energy—it's a promise made to you. The forward momentum creates a sort of vacuum behind it, pulling toward you all you need to help you continue moving in your chosen direction. Once the journey has begun, it may take unexpected turns, but it never really ends. Like cycles in nature, there are periods of obvious growth and periods of dormancy that signal a time of waiting for the right moment to burst forth. Each time we choose to start anew we dedicate ourselves to becoming the best we are able to be.

MY WISH 4 U IN '08...

May peace break into your house and may thieves steal your debts.

May the pockets of your jeans become a magnets for money.

May love infect your entire body and may laughter assault your lips!

May your clothes reek of success, and may happiness slap you across the face and may your tears be that of joy.

May the problems you had forget your home address!

In simple words…May 2008 be the best year of your life!!!

ANOTHER YEAR ENDS...

ANOTHER YEAR HAS PAST…ANOTHER YEAR AHEAD, WHERE WILL TIME MEET U? This year has presented some of life’s UPS, DOWNS, HIGHS n’ LOW; but all in all I would say that as time marches on I am grateful for being alive! Even though life has tested me, I did NOT bend OR break. I am like a teabag, whose strength comes out when put in hot water. Therefore, when internal AND external events upset me I just think, I MUST BE ON OF GOD’S FAVORITE CUP OF TEA! L(O)L! This year it was all about HUMANITY, thus I made it a point to surround myself with a variety of people. Which ultimately ushered my personal theme of making memories AND cherishing the lives of those that exist on this planet. This year has made me realized that for everything there is a SEASON and for everything under the sun there is a REASON. 2007 IS DONE & I WROTE THIS ENTRY TO GO AGAINST ALL THAT GETS IN THE WAY OF LIFE. I WANT TO ENCOURAGE YOU TO MAKE 2008 THE YEAR OF SUCCESS & PROPERITY! IT IS TIME FOR US TO REALIZE THAT NO MAN, WOMAN, ANIMAL, PLACE or THING CAN TAKE WHAT IS PREDESTINED. THEREFORE, AS YEAR END THANK GOD THAT YOU HAVE MADE, I KNOW THAT I HAVE…I KNOW THAT IT IS ODD TO LOOK BACK ON A YEAR THAT IS GONE PASS SO QUICKLY. EACH DAY, WEEK & MONTH WE SEEM VERY DESPERATE IN LIFE. DESPERATE TO VENTURE OUT, BUT AFRAID OF WHAT THEY WILL MISS WHEN THEY GO. DESPERATE TO GET EVERYTHING THEY WANT, EVEN WHEN THEY ARE NOT EXACTLY SURE OF WHAT THAT IS. IT SEEMS THAT WE ARE DESPERATE FOR LIFE TO BE PERFECT, NEVER REALIZING THAT IT IS NOT BAD @ ALL. I GET THAT WE ARE DESPERATE FOR A BETTER FUTURE, IF ONLY WE COULD FIND A WAY TO ESCAPE THE PAST YEAR(S). THIS YEAR IS ABOUT TO LEAVE, SO I SAY SIT N’ REMINISCE & YOURSELF FOR BEING WHO YOU ARE. I HOPE THAT IN 2008 ALL YOUR DREAMS N’ DESIRES COME TRUE. MAKE LIFE WORK THE BEST YOU CAN & PREPARE FOR A FUTURE OF MANY HAPPY TIMES…

POSSESS (BEDRIDDEN)

I am lost in that overwhelming feeling

Of needing him so badly.

That gut wrenching feeling of…

How the fuck can I possibly take him into my very being?

I need me inside of him,

Not just by dick N’ ass.

The rhythm we have,

Has my body screaming for HIM!

HE was tearing me apart with desire and want for me.

I was dying (from HIM wanting me so badly)

Emotionally, it was heaven on Earth!

We got into a game of whatever one did,

The other followed.

It was invigorating!

The way we matched one another…

Savoring the taste of each other.

I'd suck HE,

And HE me;

Becoming increasingly lost!

Every nerve in our bodies was in tune with the other.

At this point,

I wanted me on him to feel that power,

His heated body on mine.

As we LOVE each other.

Giving me the feeling that…

Perhaps there would be;

No unhappiness,

No frustration

Left in the world.

They would see

Me take HE in my arms

And give it all

Partaking of HIS charms…

Then maybe I could

Sleep a day

Knowing that HE

Were here to stay…

Together,

Possessing me for all of eternity!

© tgk

COMING OUT...

¿WHAT DOES IT MEAN 2 COME OUT?

Coming out is the process of personally accepting your homosexuality and disclosing it to family, co-workers and friends. Coming out is different for every gay or bisexual man. Some experience a lot of pain and anguish while for others acceptance is simple. You may experience fear, doubt, loneliness, anger and even depression. That's why it is good to surround yourself with others that may be going through the same transition or who have already come out. They can be a great support network. If you don't have any gay friends or don't know anyone else coming out, there are discussion forums and chat rooms that have plenty of positive influences. Be careful though, some may only be interested in sex or may seek to take advantage of you.

¿WHEN SHOULD YOU COME OUT?

You should come out when you are absolutely ready! Remember, even though this may be a confusing time, you are in complete control. You can disclose your sexuality at your own pace. Some choose to come out slowly. They reveal their sexuality to a few people that are close to them, then move on to other family and friends. Often, because of many work environments, the workplace may be the last step. Just make sure you are comfortable with yourself. Once that happens, it is a lot easier to tell others.

¿WHAT ABOUT REJECTION?

Some family and friends do have a hard time accepting that someone they love is gay or bisexual. However, there are many times where they are extremely supportive. Each person's situation and surroundings are different and there is no definite way to tell how well your family will accept your sexuality. Just be strong and remember to come out to family and friends at your own pace. You can't choose your family, but if your friends do not accept you for who you are, then they don't need to be in your live anyway. You are in complete control, don't let fear hold you back. Your Gay Life Guide as well as support groups are available if you need to talk.