THE "REAL" GAY MARRIAGE...

In this day and age, divorce rates are high and people are puzzled as to how the traditional marriages of yesteryear can ever survive today's fast paced lifestyle. Many couples marry because they are IN LOVE. They have overwhelming attraction to one another and because they feel romantic love towards one another, they feel that they should commit their lives to each other. I have been thinking about the GAY men that marry women to either hide OR cure their homosexuality. I TOTALLY understand the reason they do it, but I can’t’ say that I agree with it. We hear talk about GAY MARRIAGE in the press and everywhere else, but NO one is talking about the REAL gay marriage? Times have certainly changed. Unfortunately our spiritual understanding of romantic unions and relationships has been slow to follow. Many people still have certain expectations of each other in this society so MERGERS like this take place VERY often. BUT ISN’T IT FUNNY THOUGH, A GAY CAN BE FORGIVEN BECAUSE HE TOOK A BRIDE & BECAME A REFORM HOMOSEXUAL? If only it were THAT easy…CLOSE…but WE need to take a closer look @ this phenomenon because a gay man merely taking some vows in front of God and some invited guest won’t magically transform him into a hetero. Relationships are difficult on their own so can you imagine what it’ll be like when a relationship of this sort tries to make from day to the next? Relationships are constantly challenging; constantly calling us to create, express AND experience an elevated aspect of ourselves. So after the happy couple crosses the threshold AND settles down REALITY hits home and it won’t be pretty. It is a KNOWN fact that when human relationships fail, they fail because they were entered into for the wrong reason. And NOTHING proves this more than a gay AND straight union. They both enter into the union with an eye toward what they can get out of the other…Talk about romance…ISN’T IT SWEET TO HAVE THEM SAY THAT THEY WERE NOTHING UNTIL THEY MET EACH OTHER? I guess it makes PERFECT sense since the purpose of relationship is NOT to have another who might complete you; but to have another with whom you might share your completeness. So given this predicament what do you think will happen when the GAY man gets that itch that his wife can’t scratch? After all he decided to become some woman’s husband so he could NOT follow his individual path to a life of reality. Pity that the bonds of marriage are seen as prohibitive rather than engaging in an active spiritual partnership full of growth and cooperation…ALL THE SAME I SUPPOSE…IT SADDENS ME TO THINK THAT OUR SOULS CAME TO OUR BODIES FOR THE PURPOSE OF EVOLUTION & SOME OF WE GAY MEN CAN’T GET IT TOGETHER. WE ALL ARE EVOLVING & BECOMING…BUT WHEN WE USE SOMETHING SO SACRED IN THIS MANNER, WE DON’T DO OUR SEXUALITY AN INJUSTICE. SO I SAY TO THE GAY MEN THAT TAKES THIS PATH…DON’T! IT IS MORE IMPORTANT TO BE TRUE TO YOURSELF RATHER THAN MESSING UP SOME WOMAN’S LIFE. MARRIAGE IS TOO IMPORTANT TO BE TREATED IN SUCH A MANNER. HOW CAN TOGETHERNESS BE ACHIEVED IF THE WINDS OF HEAVEN CAN’T DANCE BETWEEN YOU? SPIRITUAL PARTNERS SHOULD HONOR & LOVE EACH OTHER, FILL EACH OTHER’S CUP, GIVE ONE ANOTHER BREAD…BUT NOT EAT FROM THE SAME LOAF…ALL I KNOW IS THAT I CAN’T WAIT UNTIL I SAY I DO TO MAN IN MY LIFE…I CAN ONLY THANK GOD THAT WE MAN UP & ACCEPT WHO WE ARE & NOT TRY TO HIDE BEHIND SOME FARCE OF A MARRIAGE…

TOP 10 SIGNS OF A DL MAN...

1. HE LIKES TO "PRETEND" TO DANCE LIKE A WOMAN…While a 50 Cent or Jay Z song is on, they on the wall looking mad. But, as soon as Beyonce comes on, he is all over the dance shaking his ass and doing it better than you girl. Yeah, you think he’s playing and trying to make you laugh. But he’s really not. Besides ladies, you don’t want a man, who can dance better to a Beyonce song right?


2. HE'S ALWAYS WITH HIS BEST FRIEND…They are always together like two females. Always working out together…always on the phone together. And, you as the girlfriend wonder why he spends more time with his best friend than with you. Could that mean that you are his cover up; and as long as he is with you, no one will think that he is gay?


3. HE PICKS AN ARGUMENT WITH YOU FOR NO REASON…And, then leaves the house for hours. He does this so he has time for the both of you and his down low lover. So be cautious, if your man is always picking arguments with you and leaves the house for hours. If he’s not hiding that he’s gay, he’s hiding something. And, that’s another story, another time, and another place…


4. LOOK @ HIS WALK…Does your dude walks too, too hard? So hard that it's noticeable? I mean y'all don't want your man to walk all gay and stuff. So him putting on this EXTRA manliness is meant to both in impress AND throw you off his scent. If a man walks hard AND tough he wont’ be seen as gay. But, don’t be fooled, that walk is just as noticeable as my Naomi walk. He can fool the people, but you can’t fool those who the score. We know what he is covering up with that walk. The only difference between us is that we have the out of the closet normal walk and he has the I am in the closet on the DL walk…


5. HE'S EXTREMELY SECRETIVE…This sign is for all you parents out there. If you have a son who sneaks out the house a lot; and you rarely know his whereabouts most of the time…SOMETHING IS GOING ON! Especially if mostly males call the house for him and he rarely talk about girls. Sorry but he is a GAY. Basically, if you know nothing about his son lifestyle, it’s because he doesn’t want you to know. He doesn’t want you to know that he is gay, that’s why everything with him is a big secret. Most of this secret lifestyle starts to happen around the age of 15. By then most boys should know if they like girls or boys or both…


6. HE ALWAYS TALKS ABOUT HOW CHICKS WANT TO GET @ HIM…But, in reality you never see him with any females. More than likely he is saying that to make you think he’s straight and to throw you off. But in reality, those females he talks about are really men…


7. HE HITS & BEATS ON WOMEN…I’m sorry, a real man does not hit a woman. But, a down low man will. Now, wait a minute some women do like getting a little roughed up, choked up, a little weave pulling during sex. But that’s another story child. I’m talking about those Ike and Tina Turner beatings. He's just trying to prove to the world that he is a heterosexual man. Knowing deep inside he is a homosexual. So if your man is beating on you like that, wake up, before it’s too late!


8. HE'S ALWAYS CALLING SOMEBODY ELSE GAY…A man that is constantly saying things about like, HE LOOKS GAY, HE ACTS GAY; HE DRESSES GAY & HE WALKS GAY…more than like is GAY. Basically he is just hope AND praying that he is so he could have him all to himself (especially if he is in female company). So it would be in his best interest if he truly wants to remain on the DL he needs to STOP calling out other gay men.


9. HE WANTS TO MAKE LOVE FROM BEHIND…If your man always want to have anal every time your have sex, and gets mad when you don’t want to…that is a sign. Because if your man like poking you in the ass, more than likely any ass will do. What makes you think he wouldn’t mind poking another man? So watch out for those men that likes to be fingered OR have their salads toss. And this should be a NO brainer…but, if your man likes for you to strap on a dildo and let him have it…I could be wrong, but I highly doubt it…


10. HE'S HOMOPHOBIC…Is your man always angry with gay people for no reason. Does he always have something negative to say about them? When he comes across a gay man, does he make a CHI CHI man comment OR make some homophobic remark? He is CLEARLY saying that being with another man is something that interests him and he is trying to make sure you are NOT aware of that. I find this happens when he sees someone he wants to get with. But DEEP inside he wants that gay boy OR rather feel free AND happy like him. So he hates on the gay boy, because the gay boy can care less of what folks has to say about him and he’s going to be himself. A real man will see a gay boy and say nothing. It’s always them dam DL ones who always have something to say. So to the REAL gay men who meet these type of homosexuals I say SMILE every time you come upon one TRUST ME, it’s the best medicine. But it is the ladies that I am worried about, they need to be cautious if they are NOT interested in dating a man that wants to be with other men.

INVISIBLE FAITH...

The
other day I had an epiphany which led me to my blog entry for the day. For a
while now I’ve been dealing with things that seemed so unfair OR unwarranted on my part. @ first it
was hard for me to understand the how OR
why this was happening; but now I can say that I am glad it did. But as reflect
on how I got to this place, I now realize that being unemployed in times such
as these that it is hard to remain positive. Though I was to a degree, there
were still times that QUESTIONED GOD
about whys N’ whens…Nonetheless, I
have come to understand that God wants me to be MORE appreciative of having such a GREAT partner AND best
friend that supports and help me. Moreover, I needed to be thankful that I am
here on this planet with life. NEVERTHELESS,
I FOUND IT REALLY INTERESTING HOW THE THING THAT YOU SHOULD BE GRATEFUL FOR
MAKES THINGS SO DIFFICULT FOR YOU! But as hard as it is, we HAVE to find a way to not only cope,
but deal with things in a effective manner despite the fact that you are dealing
with something difficult…IT IS ALL ABOUT
PROCESSING N’ RELEASING…As it stands, we get lost in the confusion of OUR world when life is happening to EVERYONE! Though it is dissimilar and depending
on where you are standing, the ONLY
thing I feel that makes a difference is OUR
vantage point. So it is up to us to NOT
get lost and know that things will change even when it doesn’t seem like they
are. From our UNIQUE window of the
world, we may see what looks like a pain N’ hurt but if we take another look, we
maybe able to see happiness N’ joy.
It is all about how we handle life as it comes to us and understanding that the
shadow that is concealed from one point of view is easily seen from another. So
unless you are willing to see what's in front of us through different eyes our INVISIBLE FAITH would become just that…INVISIBLE. Hence it is IMPORTANT to see the problem from
another perspective, whether spatially OR
mentally, so we can see the hidden treasures of life. The root of the discovery
process often lies in finding another way of looking at our tribulations. So it
pays to remember that even though the experiences in life seem confusing,
alarming OR worrisome, they need NOT be…They are but life happening as
the earth spins…IT IS ALL ABOUT
RECOGNIZING OUR OWN ABUNDANCE & KNOWING THAT AS LONG AS WE HAVE A FAITH
THAT NO ONE CAN TOUCH IT & EVERYTHING WILL BE FINE. AFTER ALL IT IS PUREST THING
IN LIFE ANYONE COULD EVER EXPERIENCE. THIS MADE ME REALIZE THAT IT IS OKAY TO
FEEL LOST N’ ALONE, BUT YOU SHOULD TRY TO AVOID GETTING CAUGHT UP IN IT. IN ANY
CASE IT IS IMPORTANT TO REMEMBER THAT WHAT YOU SEND OUT WILL ALWAYS COME BACK
TO YOU. SO DON’T BE AFRAID TO USE YOURSELF AS A PENDULUM & TRUST THAT
EVERYTHING WILL BE OKAY. IT IS THE ONLY WAY THAT WE CAN CONNECT WITH OUR HIGHER
SELVES. SO I ASK THAT YOU NOT ALLOW 
THINGS TO GET IN YOUR WAY, I DIDN’T & STILL LIVE TO WRITE ABOUT IT…I
NOW UNDERSTAND THAT LIFE IS HAPPENING ALL AROUND US EVEN IF IT IS NOT &
THAT IS THE THING THAT KEEPS ME HOLDING ONTO MY INVISIBLE FAITH, BECAUSE I
BELIEVE THAT THIS TOO SHALL PASS…

 

WHEN CAN I SEE YOU?

In late 1993 Babyface, who was at the top of his game as POP/R&B's hottest writer and producer, released his acclaimed solo album For the Cool in You. The album featured four hit singles, those being the title track, "Never Keeping Secrets," "And Our Feelings," and the song that went on to become his signature tune, WHEN CAN I SEE YOU? This song reached #4 on the charts. When I was researching the info on this song, I realized that music have SO much power because it bring such intense emotion of years gone by. When I hear first heard this song I MERELY 16…WOW!!! I guess that’s a classic will ALWAYS be current. What I LOVE about BABYFACE is that he uses his talent to put himself out there, no gimmicks, and no stupid music videos…just pure soul-shattering music. This song is VERY emotional AND raw without being dramatic. I don’t know about what you think, but Usher, Chris Brown and Ne-Yo are a LONG way off from the talent of this man and this song proves that.

LEE NATIONAL DENIM DAY

Since its inception in 1996, Lee
National Denim Day has adhered to a simple philosophy: one day, one cause, one
cure®. In 12 years, that philosophy has become a mantra for millions and has
made an impact Lee Jeans never dreamed possible. It all started when several
Lee Jeans employees realized that each of them, in one form or another, had
been touched by breast cancer. An everyday conversation sparked an idea and led
to the creation of Lee National Denim Day, which has become one of the largest
single-day fundraisers nationwide for breast cancer. In its first year, Lee
Jeans set a goal of raising $1 million on Lee National Denim Day. To do this,
Lee Jeans invited companies to go casual for a cause, inviting employees to
wear their jeans to work on Denim Day in exchange for a $5 contribution to the
fight against breast cancer. The underlying concept behind the program was
simple—by convincing enough people to take one small step, together they could
reach an incredible goal. The response to the inaugural Lee National Denim Day
program was astounding. That year, more than 3,000 companies signed up to
participate, raising $1.4 million dollars for the fight against breast cancer,
setting the stage for what would become one of the most captivating social
action campaigns in the country. Since its first year, Lee National Denim Day
has raised more than $70 million for the fight against breast cancer and unites
nearly one million supporters nationwide each year. I would LOVE a
future WITHOUT breast cancer...DON'T YOU?

"PRACTICE BOY"

So, you've been seeing him on and off for a bit. You hold hands (in private). You don’t spend every free moment together. You guys don’t really communicate with each other…And you won’t introduce him to persons that are close to you…He is NOT your boyfriend, your husband, partner OR special friend, he is what I would call a PRACTICE BOY. BUT WHO IS A PRATICE BOY? If I were to put it simply, he would be that MAN that gives you EVERYTHING you want AND NOTHING @ all. He is VERY treacherous and he does NOT live as if his sexuality is one of GOD’S gifts. He feels that HE is GOD’S gift! And even though he is NOT a good person to have around, he somehow manages to establish a FEAR-BASED attachment with way too many of us. While his incentives may be financial, they are by NO means his reason for living like this. He is VERY much experienced AND devoid of principles. He LOVES himself SO much that he’ll get with anyone he so desires. It could be your lover OR friend, it does NOT matter…the ONLY thing that matters is him. Which makes him DANGEROUS because as knows how to treat a man (when it comes to sex). He’ll use his MOUTH, TONGUE and ASS to please a man in EVERY way possible. He is that BOYISH~MAN that spreads his ass cheeks wide enough for you while holding his legs in position. He knows EXACTLY what you would want to do; and he is ALWAYS ready…making him a PERFECT mate for the desperate; and the WORST enemy for the man that wants something real. And trying to figure him out is like falling head first down a never-ending rabbit hole…IT WILL GET YOU NO WHERE! Because his reasons for living the way he does involve a mixture of positive AND negative justifications. Your best defense would be to run like hell and NOT take him on. His SELF-WORTH is wrapped up in SEX and his quest for SOCIAL STATUS. This ENIGMATIC behavior reflects his emotional distance from the world around him; and he isn’t interested in anything OR anyone unless it can benefit him. So to his disciples I say TAKE HEED AND DO WHAT HE OBVIOUSLY CAN’T…LOVE YOURSELF! I know that HE more than likely is a GREAT piece of ass (lawd knows so many of them are), but he is ONLY a distraction that keeps us LIVING the NEGATIVE part of our sexuality. He is that QUICK fix that goes TERRIBLY wrong; that will NOT be able to make up your shortcomings…that 24-hour homosexual that is about the MONEY, CARS & HIGH-END DESIGNER CLOTHES…SO USE COMMON SENSE ALONG WITH GOOD SOUND JUDGMENT TO AVOID A BOND WITH THIS INDIVIDUAL. IF YOU FIND THAT A BIT DIFFICULT, REMEMBER: THAT IT TAKES A MAN TO MAKE A LIFE WITH & A BOY TO F&CK THINGS UP. DON’T INVEST YOUR TIME & ENERGY INTO A PRACTICE BOY, HE DOES NOT DESERVE IT! TO DO ANYTHING ELSE IS OTHER THAN THAT IS ANTICLIMACTIC…

SOME SEX FACTS

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